Oh hi there! I know, I know, it’s been days since I last wrote anything. I attended Blissdom in Nashville and didn’t have a chance to write before leaving. Normally this wouldn’t matter even one, tiny bit, but this time I left up such an angsty post! I had every intention of writing something funny or a posting a cute picture of a kid or ANYTHING ELSE BUT THAT before the conference, but I just didn’t get a chance.
As always, from the very bottom of my heart, THANK YOU for your kind words and for your own personal stories regarding my State of our Marriage and rotten parenting worries. Each of your comments meant such a great deal to me. One in particular, from Rima, ended with a quote that I ADORE and want framed or tattooed somewhere on my body. I’m leaning towards framed rather than tattooed.
“Let everything happen to you – the beauty, the terror. Just keep going, no feeling is final.” ~Rilke
Is that not perfect?! Thank you, Rima, truly.
I took your words and heart felt advice and talked to Tate before leaving for Nashville. I knew that leaving with such a heavy burden on my heart and on my mind would have furthered the rift in our marriage. In my mind, I planned to sit Tate down and have our much needed talk, but only after I had completely gotten ready for the next day’s departure. Tate, however, decided to confront ME while I was in the middle of preparations.
Unfortunately I was completing a VERY IMPORTANT pre-conference beauty ritual when he decided it was time to talk. I had just put whitening strips on my teeth. How sherioush a convershation can you reary have when you’re wearing whitening shtripsh? Yeah, I don’t know. We might need to have a do-over very serious conversation since it was hard for both of us not to laugh with spit and speech impediments flying out of my mouth.
At least it was a start.
I actually think that sounds like a great start!
Rima’s quote is totally tattooable. I love it.
And I love your honesty about marriage and motherhood. Always.
Because it’s so hard and so often we compare and if no one is saying what’s REALLY going on, we conclude our marriage is the very most cracked. And we also conclude that we’re the only ones spilling medicine and YELLING in a non-calm way. We’re all really the same, that’s what it comes down to, but blogging can sometimes confuse that.
Peace. (and calm.)
.-= Heather of the EO´s last blog ..5 Gifts =-.
I’m sure it helped that at least the door to the conversation was opened before you left so you could truly enjoy your weekend. Looking forward to hearing of all your adventures!
It sounds like you are both wanting to talk about it all, which is a *great* start! xx
a start is GOOD! and there’s nothing wrong with starting shlow
.-= MommyNamedApril´s last blog ..It’s Always The Same… Just Different. =-.
That quote is fabulous. Hope your weekend away was rejuvenating, and I wish you the best in the conversations to come.
.-= mep´s last blog ..Little Bit’s Got Game(s) Too =-.
love love LOVE that quote.
beautiful.
and maybe? just maybe … that was the perfect way to start the conversation (speech impediments and all.)
.-= jen´s last blog ..iheartkisses at i {heart} faces =-.
Laughter of any kind is always a good sign, at least in my book.
.-= rima´s last blog ..Unrepentant =-.
How was Blissdom? Sounds like you were able to leave town on a funny note, so that’s good!
.-= Natalia´s last blog ..Weekly Goals AND Weigh In Monday =-.
Blissdom was amazing! It was probably the best conference I’ve been to so far. I need to write a recap post, but I don’t know how to put into words just how much I learned and how inspired I feel.
Glad you had fun at Blissdom. And I’m sure your teeth looked fantastic!
Also glad you had a tawk with the love of your life and can continue the conversation.
Baby steps with the marriage troubles, just like baby steps for your kids. You’re exactly right when you say “At least it was a start.” – good attitude.
I’m a huge fan of open communication (which sometimes seems like confrontation in our house). I also totally believe in having an unbiased person (aka a therapist) help you work through issues.
Marriage is hard. But anything worth having is worth working through.
Good. A start. Open lines.
.-= lceel´s last blog ..A little more Meander =-.
it’s great that he recognized the need for a start.
and maybe the humor was helpful to diffuse some of the situation. no doubt things were said that you can now re-visit with clean and plain teeth.
and you’ll have both been a little more prepared.
glad to know you had a good weekend. i hope the time away helped you -in your marriage and your soul.
all the best….
.-= mpotter´s last blog ..language =-.
Ah! Genius! I love that quote! Am stealing and putting it on facebook. Love it! (coming over from inthetrenchesofmommyhood – my college buddie, love her!)
.-= Serenityville´s last blog ..Trivial Tuesday =-.
Don’t men just have the WORST sense of timing? This past December, I was sitting at the computer entering all of the holiday commitments into my calendar, making lists of all the gifts I had to buy and where they needed to be shipped to. Downloading recipes for all the contributions to cocktail parties and figuring out WHEN was I going to fit cooking in. Blah blah blah….
FINALLY, I got to sit down in the living room for a little bit of relaxation, where my husband proceeded to sit down with me and tell me that he is feeling NEGLECTED lately, and that *I* need to make more time for HIM.
So don’t worry. You’re not the only one with an insensitive husband!
.-= Pam´s last blog ..Snow Day! =-.
I also totally believe in having an unbiased person (aka a therapist) help you work through issues.