Maybe because my 35th birthday and the looming ADVANCED MATERNAL AGE label are right around the corner, I’ve been thinking a lot about the possibility of more children. I realize that women have healthy babies every single day who are 35, 38, or 42. There’s just something about the medical community’s label of advanced maternal age, even if it’s flawed and ridiculous, that somehow feels final. It’s almost like getting a kindly worded letter stating, “Thank you so much for your contribution of children to our society. We are currently not accepting any children from the ADVANCED MATERNAL AGE group at this time. If you feel you received this in error, please contact our office at 1-800-WRINKLED-UTERUS.”
So many people have told me that when you’re done having kids, you’ll just know.
Well I don’t know! We’re probably done having babies. Maybe. Probably.
Before Tate and I got married and we used to gaze dreamily into one another’s eyes and imagine our future family, it always included two kids. We both grew up in families of four and it just seemed logical that we’d do it the same way. I can’t believe how extraordinarily lucky we’ve been with two healthy, beautiful gifts of children. A boy and a girl! What more could we possibly want?
Our family doesn’t feel incomplete. We are complete! Definitely. Maybe. Probably.
We have discussed having a third baby, in an abstract sort of way.
“We only have a three bedroom house,” he’ll say. “Children share bedrooms all the time. But I don’t think we really NEED another child. I’m just thinking out loud.” I’ll say, watching Tate’s face change from mild panic to relief.
“I love the name Chase, don’t you?” I’ll ask Tate randomly. “What about Georgia for a girl?” He’ll look at me sideways and just shake his head. “I just like to think about baby names, not for born babies, just the imaginary ones. Can’t a girl dream?!”
“Would you really want to start all over?” my mom has asked me over the phone. The answer to that is, no. No, I really don’t want to go back to nap schedules and sleepless nights (those will return soon enough with teenagers), or breastfeeding and high chairs. Our kids are so close in age, by very careful design, they both enjoy the same activities. Next year, they’ll both be in school at the same time!
Before we got pregnant with Carson, both Tate and I felt ready to have a baby. (SO HILARIOUS, I know! Ready! For a baby! HA!!) We were 200% certain that we wanted to be parents, it was something that consumed all of my thoughts. I didn’t feel any doubt as we tried to get pregnant. The doubt came as soon as the pregnancy test was positive and lasted until he was five months old. In the back of mind, I kept waiting for his real parents to show up and claim him. I wasn’t sure at all about being ready for a second baby, but we took an enormous leap of faith and on a whim decided to give Carson a sibling. We knew we’d never regret having another baby and grow our family, but there wasn’t an all consuming urge like there had been when we decided to start our family.
Now I have even less of an urge to make another baby. I don’t fully grasp why I even entertain the possibility! There isn’t just one, neat and concise answer. Many of my friends have three (or MORE!) kids. Maybe because they seem perfectly sane, even happy, that I entertain the idea in a romantic sort of way. (Ah! Cute baby clothes and wee baby feet! Gummy grins and sweet baby smells!) Maybe I want to keep up with the Joneses. Maybe I still have so many great baby names to use. Maybe I really enjoyed breastfeeding. Maybe I’ve lost my mind. My “baby” will be three in May, and then all of a sudden I’ll wake up one day both my children will be off to college and married with kids. At some point, the childbearing years end, but perhaps it’s THE END that makes me want to keep my babies babies, by having just one more.
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I’m so curious about how people make these decisions about growing their family (or not growing their family.) How did you decide to start a family? What made you have one baby? Two babies? Seven babies? Are you done having babies? HOW DID YOU KNOW YOU WERE DONE!!!????
I know we’re not done. I’m not sure that my husband knows we’re not done but he will soon enough!
We have two right now and as much I don’t want sleepless nights and diaper blowouts, I want a third child more.
We felt complete for awhile after our second was born but I would say within the last year or so I’ve found myself thinking about and preparing for a third. We’ll probably try and get pregnant this summer.
And then we’ll be done. Maybe.
I am DONE. 100% done, never having another baby EVER. It’s easy for me because I had natural fraternal twins the first time I ever had sex with no birth control EVER. I do not ever want to be pregnant again or go through the newborn days again.
Sometimes I have doubts because I would love to have a girl and pink clothes make my ovaries hurt. BUT my best friend recently found out she was having twins and when she told me, the first panicky thought in my head was “How can I permanently sterilize myself so I NEVER have kids again?”
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I turned 35 yesterday. I have two boys and am expecting a daughter in the next couple of weeks. I can’t say for sure that I’m “ready” for three kids or that I know I can handle it, but I also don’t feel afraid.
We settled on three because when we looked dreamily into each other’s eyes while dating we said we’d have three kids. I’m from a family of five kids; he’s from a family of two — three seemed like the right number for us. Plus, to be perfectly honest, I did want to “try for a girl.”
I feel very confident that after this baby, we are finished and have some idea that hubby should get some surgery to ensure that we are finished.
Good luck deciding what’s right for your family!
.-= mep´s last blog ..Obligatory Mini Van Post =-.
I’m not sure right now – I’m swithering between the two! I definitely don’t want any in the next few years. Not till both my boys are at school. But then do I really want to go through it all again? Or would I be better getting a puppy…? (no I’m actually serious here… I think I’d rather get a dog than have another baby!).
On the other hand, my OH is so awesome with my kids, I would love to give him the opportunity of having his own lil baby, and it could be my last gasp attempt at having a girl…
But then, I don’t really want to go back to the sleepless nights and never having any time to myself.
So yeah, uh, no help there – I think I’m on the same boat as you at the moment. Part of me thinks I’m done, but the other part wonders if I really am.
Wow that made no sense! >_<
.-= Marylin´s last blog ..As requested… =-.
Barking up the wrong tree on this one… as this is something that I wrestle with EVERY DAY. LITERALLY. DAILY.
I don’t feel “done”. But I don’t know if 4 children is the lifestyle I want. Car-life would be more complicated… and what if someone wanted to bring a friend, or we needed to have an extra person along for some reason? WHAT IF I HAD TWINS AGAIN???
I think we are going to give ourselves a timeline as to when to “decide by”… if we STILL are reluctant to get pregnant, by say, Xmonth of Xyear, then we’ll be done.
I think.
.-= Marie Green´s last blog ..Compassion? Or Something Else? =-.
This was a tough one for me, too. I practically had the decision made for me though. I had my perfect little girl with fairly uncomplicated birth. Then along came my baby boy. 9 weeks of bed rest and pre-term labor complications = 9 weeks of my family picking up my slack and worrying daily about our health. They pretty much laid the law down and I agreed that I didn’t want to risk fate by trying for a 3rd.
The problem? Just after he was born, I couldn’t help but feel that maybe, just maybe, our family was not complete. Could’ve been the hormones or pain killers. Not sure…it still lingers a bit 4.5 years later.
Before agreeing for my husband to have a vasectomy, I made HIM agree that if we ever felt the need to add to our family, we would adopt. He agreed and it was far less stressful for me.
So, my uterus is done carrying babies. But the possibility is still there for me to have another baby in our lives. Maybe. Someday. Probably.
.-= Ashlie- Mommycosm´s last blog ..Guilty pleasures =-.
HUGE decision for us…I had a miscarriage, a child born ill that we lost at age two, and a very healthy, typical son who is now two. I’m currently in my fourth pregnancy, but have only one child. After losing my oldest, I was so very conflicted about having more. And I’m 37…so yeah, big decisions. In the end, though, I decided I wasn’t ready but our family wasn’t done. Ready or not, we dove in again. I wasn’t getting any younger.
I’m ready, though. The minute I saw the pos. test I knew I was ready.
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Interesting conversation! My husband was one of 4, and I was one of 2. After we were married for a while, it came out that he kind of expected to have 4 kids, and I kind of expected to have 2. So. We had 3. LOL.
But the 3rd, while we thought we would probably have a 3rd, was still the object of much debate b/c I was liking the simplicity of life with 2, and eventually the 3rd pregnancy came about as a HUGE surprise to both of us. I admit I was not happy at first. But as it turns out, I love having 3 kids and I’m SO glad it happened naturally b/c I’m not sure I’d have had the nerve to TRY.
I’ve never met anyone that wasn’t purely smittened with their third child. There is something SO awesome about them since you as a parent are totally relaxed – they turn out to be these delightful little creatures that walk all over you. It’s. The. Best.
I sold all my baby things after my 2nc child. (My two eldest so close in age and I thought I was done) Three years later – I didn’t want to live the rest of my life wondering WHAT IF so we had another baby.
I can not imagine my life w/o her.
.-= OHmommy´s last blog ..Four generations of stiletto loving women =-.
I know some people feel they “know” when they are done but I don’t think that applies to everyone. Some of us have a harder time deciding if we really want to be done, maybe because it’s hard to separate how much we love babies from the fact that having another baby is a huge commitment? I think it’s different from everyone. Personally, I had to separate the emotion from the decision because otherwise we would just keep having babies until I couldn’t anymore. But when I logically went through the pros (baybeez!!!! squeee!!!!) and cons (my pregnancies were incredibly hard on me, breastfeeeding was terrible, my babies both had colic, I really don’t handle a lack of sleep well etc.) I realized that having another baby was not the best choice for me. And my emotions have come around. Although I do feel my decision was made easier by the fact that we had plans to adopt and now we are going ahead with that. But I really don’t think it’s wrong to say “i feel good about a family of 4 and while I’m sure I would love another baby, I choose to stop at 2.” There’s something in that decision that draws you even closer to the 2 you have.
Good luck with your decision! I know it’s not an easy one!
.-= Shannon´s last blog ..Look What I Did! =-.
I am wrestling with this after ONE! (Actually, my husband is doing the wrestling – seems that’s pretty common. He’s already down on the mat, though, to weakly continue the analogy…)
I know I (he) (we) will still be wrestling with this after the second.
Seems it’s a hard topic to ever really feel final about…
.-= Zoe´s last blog ..Workspace by the Window =-.
I’m an only child and always wanted a big family. My idea of ‘big’ changed from six when I was a teen thinking about my future to four when I was in my early twenties and then would settle for just two as I approached thirty. After my first was born I looked at her and wanted two more, but I’m very close to ADVANCED MATERNAL AGE and so far just have one child. Maybe my ADVANCED MATERNAL AGE will dictate twins – eeekkk!
.-= Erica´s last blog ..The Ironic Shush =-.
I loved hearing how you were SO CERTAIN about having your first baby … until the pregnancy test was positive. I had the exact same reaction to my first pregnancy, even though we had been trying to get pregnant! It’s so nice to know that I’m not the only one that went through this – I thought that I had lost my mind when I reacted that way.
I know that we aren’t done adding to our family yet. We are in the same situation as you, with a 3 year old girl and a 17 month old boy. We know that we are going to try again some time within the next year, and I toy with the idea of having a fourth (although my husband is not yet on board with that).
Good luck with your decision. Baby fever seems to be in the air lately, and I’m not so sure it’s a bad thing!
I love hearing how uncertain you are.
I just had my tubes tied 2 weeks ago. I knew after my 2nd was born that I was done done done. Two boys is enough for me and I knew I was meant to be a 2 kid parent. Good luck deciding.
My first child was not planned. But right after she was born I knew that I wanted to have another right away. My husband and I had always planned on having two kids. I was a twin and my younger sister was only 18 months younger. And the three of us are so close. I also have 3 other younger brothers and sisters and one old brother. Big family. My husband has one sister and they are 8 years apart. My son was born 20 months after his sister. The two of them are very close and do EVERYTHING together. They are each other’s security blankets and best friends. We had both decided we were done having kids. Then my MIL told me every single time I saw her that we were done having kids. And every single person that asked us if we were done she would pipe in and tell them we were done. We didn’t have a choice. Which just made us want another kid. lol. Maybe the wrong reason to get pregnant again. 5 years later we decided that we wanted another one. Best descion ever. I cant imagine our family now without all 3 of our kids. I still want one more. My husband says he is done. lol. But I don’t feel done. We also only have a 3 bedroom house. and the boys have to share a room. And they love it.
I always said that I wanted 2 maybe 3 depending on the sex of the first 2, and that I didn’t want to have any after the age of 35 (I blame my parents…my mom was 21 when she had me and they are very young grandparents…and I want to be able to roll around the floor with my grandkids like they do).
I have 2 boys born when I was 30 & 33. I knew in the first trimester with #2 that I was done. No questions. Even when I found out that we were going to have 2 boys (I thought I wanted a boy & a girl) there was no wavering. And I think our family is perfect.
My SIL had terrible terrible pregnancies and her first 2 are 15 months apart. She got pregnant with #3 then miscarried and everyone asked her why she was going to try a again, and she responded that she just felt like she had another baby in her, and that if she didn’t have it, she would regret it forever. My niece will be 1 in a couple of weeks.
For some of us we just know…my feeling is that if you are on the fence, I think you will always wonder if you don’t.
Good luck with whatever you decide…
.-= Shannon @ Shany’s Point´s last blog ..A Passover Miracle… =-.
I have a three children, two are biological. The 2nd pregnancy was tough the entire way through. We couldn’t risk another pregnancy and so we dealt with it that ok.. this is it.. we are through. I had my tubes tied and it wasn’t long before you get that niggling doubt in the back of your mind that one more would be ok.. But I see from your other readers, this is a woman thing.
We create a felsh and blood human being from our bodies – we are responsible for their fingerprints, DNA and well being. How can you not look at your children you are blessed with and not want more?
My biggest factor of knowing that what I have is the perfect number of children is knowing I have enough energy and love for the children I have. I have the ability to divide my time equally among them, and no one gets left out. I’m not stressed and neither are they so that must be perfect harmony, right?
And oh yeah, the fact that I get to sleep 8 hours at a stretch is a huge bonus!
Random side note… I am also a Jennifer who is approaching my 35th birthday.
Back on topic… my husband and I are still working on child #1, but in the event that this should occur, we both know that will be the only one. I don’t know how others decide when they are done… my parents had 6 before they came to that conclusion themselves.
.-= ~ifer´s last blog ..Remember Who You Are… =-.
I just turned 40 and I still wonder if we’re done. I don’t want to start over, but I long for a little girl (we have 3 boys).
When I think about a baby graduating from college in 18+ years, I’ll be 58. Yikes. That pretty much turns off my biological clock, and quick.
.-= kj @ Where my boys at?´s last blog ..Ice fishing takes patience =-.
We definitely knew we were done after 2. The first child was a challenging baby. Being pregnant while running after said challenging child was brutal. Complications after the birth of my second child led me to the conclusion that I never wanted to give birth again.
The second child was such an easy baby, sleeping through the night at 6 weeks, hardly ever crying, being just so HAPPY all the time, we realized we were not willing to tempt fate to try and top that experience.
That’s probably not super helpful, but all the issues we had and circumstances added up to the decision pretty much being made for us.
.-= all things BD´s last blog ..New "Pet" =-.
I envy those people that know they’re done…you know, the people that schedule the vascectomy for two weeks after their second child is born and then get rid of all of their stuff and start planning family vacations and move on with their lives. I envy them but I can’t accept that I’m done either. I often wonder if I’ll ever “just know.”
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I just knew. And my husband knew. I just never had that imaginary third. We made the decision permanent right after my second baby’s first birthday and don’t regret it at all.
.-= AndreAnna´s last blog ..Hearts =-.
I’m done. DONE. No question. 3 kids is enough. Heck, 2 was enough, my daughter was a surprise. A great surprise, mostly, but a surprise nonetheless. If I ever get that itch again, I’m just gonna get a dog.
.-= C @ Kid Things´s last blog ..Biting the Hand that Feeds Him =-.
I thought I was done after my second (the child didn’t sleep through the night until she was 2). But now that both my girls are so big (5 and 7) I feel the urge to mess with my sanity again. Fortunately (or unfortunately, depending on the day or mood) my husband is done. DONE. Which is probably a good thing in the long run. Because it’s all mother nature messing with my hormones. Apparently she WANTS us to be fruitful and multiply, regardless of how bad a mom I am with out sleep.
But those tiny feet and sweet sleeping noises… they call to me. The crying baby in the middle of the night, not so much. Sigh.
.-= Kim´s last blog ..Winter blahs…. =-.
I will be turning 36 this year and I’m consistently trying to decide if adding to our family is a wise decision. The hormones in Birth control have been my ultimate reason to go sterile. Yet pregnancy has always been a wonderful experience, yeah heartburn, boating, but seriously I’m always happy when pregnant Plus it’s kinda sad to think that I wont ever be again. My husband tells me if we win the lotto then we can stay home and have as many babies as we want… we both love kids and could potentially have 5 or 6 of them. Right now my 14 and 5 year old keep me on my toes and I don’t know if I’ll survive the teen years with my youngest.
It’s hard. Good luck.
.-= Kris´s last blog ..Take Your Giraffe To Work Day =-.
We have two “let’s just see what happens”, and I am so very happy that we do. I wouldn’t trade our 3rd and 4th for anything. I say go with whichever makes you happy, but never be afraid to go for the third. I don’t think you’d ever regret it, and yes, my last was when I was the dreaded “AMA”.
.-= Mom24@4evermom´s last blog ..Normal Day =-.
Oh my lord. I turn 36 next week and my second son is at the age my first son was when we decided to concieve him. Our family trajectory/sense of certainty/age is nearly identical. I’m starting to feel TOO OLD for more babies. I’m starting to like sleeping 7-8 hours without interruption. I’m starting to look forward to the idea of leaving two children with relatives while my husband and I fly to Italy or Hawaii for a week and get to know each other. I don’t know if my marriage would survive a third child. I don’t know if I could survive PPD again.
But do I feel certain that I’m done? No.
Do I want to be pregnant again? 90% no, 10% yes.
Do I want to survive the first year of a newborn’s life again? No.
I had no idea this decision would be so difficult. It’s all I think about these days. Arrrgh. I’m not much help. But I’m right there with you.
.-= Must Be Motherhood´s last blog ..The dawn to end all nights =-.
I just knew. There were factors that influenced me of course – my sanity for one. Others: money, time, car size, house size, college funds, and the amount of attention we wanted to be able to give each child.
.-= Devan´s last blog ..5 years =-.
I am done having babies. It was a decision made for me by my body after #2 was born & my OB agreed that at 37, with my pregnancy & post partum history my body should probably be done.
But I’m not done having kids. We don’t feel our family is entirely complete yet. It’s taken us 5 years to reach the point in our lives where we are again ready for another child but the idea has been in our minds all along (admittedly, mostly in mine, though he’s never been against it) We’re doing it through foster care since at 42 my past & my advanced maternal age are against my doing it physically
I’m 38 and still don’t know if we are done…although, most likely we are. It DOES get more difficult the older you get. So if you are thinking seriously about another one, you might want to consider it sooner rather than later.
Everyone is different and every family is different. You do what’s right for you.
.-= Life As I Know It´s last blog ..Disney Detox =-.
In college they taught me that generally new families end up with +/- 1 child than the mother grew up with… I think it’s generally true!
well. thanks for reminding me of my advanced maternal age and all today as I sit here knocked up and 36. lol.
I am unsure. I think if you want something you will go after it. Or things sometimes fall into yr lap…. I think you make gorgeous babes.
.-= amyt´s last blog ..Sunday Scenes in CBUS =-.
I don’t know what it is, but when you’re done you truly do “Just Know”. In fact, it was easy as pie to have my tubes tied mere weeks after my 3rd was born.
Had my 3rd just shy of my 36th b-day… best thing that I EVER could have done. Agree totally with OHMommy… the 3rd is just that magically little love. I can’t imagine life without him.
Oh, Jennifer…. I have no idea.
After I had Carter, I was sure I would have more. I never envisioned having only one child. Then, I knew as soon as I had Hudson I wanted more babies. I keep thinking about it and wondering… I want babies, lots of babies, but not the sleepless nights, the worrying how we’re going to put all these kids through college, the fighting… there’s just SOOO many variables.
*sigh*
.-= sam {temptingmama}´s last blog ..Alive =-.
We have two, like you. When my eClaire was born we sat down and listed all the pros and cons of another baby. There were many more cons than pros. We decided to try on the idea of no more babies for 3 months and would talk again at that point. Initially I felt exactly how you’ve described. But as the months went on I gained confidence in our decision. Now it’s been almost 3 years since the conversation and I’m so glad with our family.
Hope this helps.
I still love reading!
I feel the same way, Jennifer. We have been blessed with 3 beautiful, healthy, girls, yet, I’m not 100% sure if we are done. I’ve always wanted 4 kids. For us, it’s not the number of kids that may cause a problem or anymore craziness in our lives, it’s the idea of having another baby in the house. Babies are so much work!! Nevertheless, I am still on the fence. My hus, however, has been off the fence since #3 came out. He says we’re done. I say, if he really felt that way 100%, shouldn’t he do something to make being done permanent?
Eight months pregnant here with #3 and I still don’t think (or want) this to be my last baby. I get sad thinking that this may be the last time I’ll feel these kicks inside of me though. What if I’m done after this? I battle it every single day…you are not alone.
This is an absolutely beautiful blog, with beautiful writing..I’ll try to focus back on to your question.
We have 3, I had my last at age 43.
With 2, I always felt lonely. After 5 1/2 years of “thinking about it” I decided to go ahead with the folder labeled AMA.
Have never ever regretted it one day. HE is the icing on the cake, the cherry on the sundae, the chocolate chips in the cookie…he rounds us out and fills the house with noise and joy and commotion. I love the baby of my old age. I’d take the Gestational Diabetes and the Pre-eclampsia over and over again. Sooooo very, very worth it.
And once past a certain point,you never get another shot. I knew that, hence the “gettin’ busy” at age 42…:)
We’re done. Both my husband and I always wanted 2 and we got two. We have a girl and a boy, we have one that looks like me and one that looks like him. I had terrible, high-risk pregnancies with both that stressed out everyone involved. I had my tubes tied with the second c-section.
That all being said, I still get all emotional at the idea of being done. Particularly since I had my kids so close together- I think it’s one of those things that you dream about and think about your whole life and then boom, I did it and was done in less than 2 years.
I do get all nostalgic and broody when I see a pregnant woman, but I know this is the right answer for us
.-= Carrie´s last blog ..The blessing of challenging times =-.
Love this post and the comments. It’s nice to know that other people struggle with this, too. We have 3 happy(ish), healthy(ish) children. We had 1 miscarriage. And I sometimes wonder if we’d be tempting fate to try for #4.
I don’t have an answer…so when you find one, let me know!
.-= IveyLeagueMama´s last blog ..Contentment =-.
I’m VERY close to that age 35 and kind of feel like that is the age of “no more babies”. I just wish I could stop thinking/considering/dreaming about a baby. We have 2 kids like you, a boy and a girl that are 20 months apart. Unlike you, my kids are 12 and 11 (the oldest will be 13 in a month). We always planned to have a 3rd but after 3 miscarriages I didn’t feel emotionally able to try again. But I still think about it almost all the time but then I realize that I would have one in college and one in kindergarten and I decide it’s a bad idea. This goes back and forth in my mind again and again. I think I would have been perfectly happy with 2 if I had realized she was my last one. I envy those who knew they were done b/c while I’m 99.9% sure I will never have another child–the thought still runs through my mind. –Sorry this is so long but this is a thing I think about all the time. Kind of glad I’m not the only one.
We only ever wanted one baby. We started late, didn’t want to be old hags for parents, wanted time to enjoy our lives after the kid was gone. We got a perfect baby girl and that should be the end of story. I was perfectly happy with only one kid until about 3 months ago when the urge for another began to hit me. I think it’s b/c my girl is getting so big now, I am beginning to yearn for the newborn squishy days. But, like you, do I really want to start over and do all that crap again? No, especially the pregnancy part. My hubby is done, but a tiny part of me still thinks maybe just one more…
.-= Shelly´s last blog ..Pre-Dawn Ballet =-.
Oh, hi. Welcome to my boat. =)
Liam’s going to be three in June.
I think I want one more.
And babysitting my friend’s baby – who is the best baby/sleeper/eater EVER – is not helping at all.
I do want one more.
Sometimes.
And other times – walking out of the house with just my two boys – easy.
Oh – and did I mention my friend’s baby is a Girl. Who wears pink. And brown. And flowers. And hearts. And oh…
if only I could be sure I’d have a girl, who sleeps easily, and eats easily, and is just easy. Well, easy as a baby, but you know, not as she gets older. =)
.-= Cathy´s last blog ..Words to Live By =-.
I knew I was done, when I nearly died having my second one. Sure it’s great to day dream about a third one, I also have names all picked out for a boy or a girl if we had another, but I have to think about making sure (as much as I can) that I am actually here, for the two beautiful ones I already am blessed enough to have.
.-= Vanessa M Design´s last blog ..Business Cards Designs: Portrait or Landscape? =-.
We always wanted four or five. Serious. There is over four years between my two youngest and I adore it. I adore my tiny crazy boy. I’ll tell you a weird thing…I am getting divorced and I don’t feel done. Shrug.
I think that when you know, you know. If you are still unsure…maybe you aren’t done?
.-= Issa´s last blog ..Issa makes a cake…also see: Issa has lost her mind =-.
I’ve always wanted a big family, but after having one baby i decided that five would be insane. My husband wanted two, but I finally convinced him to move to 3. and now that we have 2 girls, we just *have* to try for a boy!
but i’ve been thinking- what if i want one more? hopefully after #3 I will know…..
.-= kat´s last blog ..PoTD =-.
This post is the conversation I have with myself all the time! We have two. Both planned and 21 months apart. They both enjoy the same things and for the most part get along well. My “baby” will be 2 tomorrow and the want for another is creeping into my mind. My husband and I always said 2 is our number but when I think about never having another baby, it breaks my heart. So, I have no answers as to how you know. I’ve always said no babies for me after 30. I’m fast approaching so I guess we’ll find out…
I still struggle with this and my youngest is 8. I think you’ve given me mojo for a post. I’ll send you the link when it’s up because otherwise I’ll hijack your comments!
.-= Headless Mom´s last blog ..Commonly misspelled words (that drive me nuts) =-.
i found this to be the hardest decision in my life. i really wasn’t sure what i wanted, i felt i wanted a third but we could hardly handle the 2 we have. i still feel like i would love a third but at 42 i have realized that it is not what our family needs. just a tip of advice if you are NOT sure i would NOT leave it up to faith unless you are 100% sure you want a third.
.-= triftimom´s last blog ..And the winner is …. =-.
I get it! I had both my babies past age 35. That Advanced Maternal Age label makes you feel older and like something is wrong with you. But once the baby is born and you get away from the doctors and specialists, everything is fine!
.-= Holly at Tropic of Mom´s last blog ..Dating my husband =-.