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Ssssh, it’s Wordless Wednesday.
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And now begins the wordy portion of the post! When I use the term “you” today, I’m of course not talking about YOU, but THOSE people.
Ella is very small for her age.
I know.
The shocked looked you give me, with eyebrows raised in question when I tell you she is ten months old feels like a kick in the teeth.
When you continue on and on and on about how small she is, I want to kick YOU in the teeth.
She is small, tiny even.
I knoooooow.
Ella has never been deprived a meal, I can assure you. If she’s hungry, I feed her. Sometimes I even feed her when she’s not hungry.
No she isn’t on the growth chart.
Yes her pediatrician is concerned. But only slightly.
No I’m not concerned.
But I am sensitive. I am sensitive because of your reaction. It’s fine to notice she’s small, (I already know), but it’s not fine to look shocked, even frightened.
She is little. But she is sauc-ay. (please refer to above picture)
I know.
Back when I was in a “baby and me” class with my firstborn, another mother there would say to me EVERY SINGLE WEEK, “Oh my god, he’s just HUGE? You know? He’s just ENORMOUS!” The fact that I never DID kick her in the teeth or do anything more than give her a not-reaching-the-eyes, tight-lipped smile, tells me that I have more self-control than I give myself credit for. But…it’s been 9 years, and I could still happily kick her in the teeth.
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You’ll have to ask VDog to send you a link to her “…OH” post about the reactions she’s gotten from people.
Scout is 6.5 and less than 200. Alex is 95th for height, 25th for weight. And the doc harps on this. While Scout is right there. Hello doc, use your eyeballs.
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Aw, she’s so cute! Trust me, if she were big for her age you’d hear about that too. People never know when to keep their mouths shut.
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My aren’t we popular here lately? It takes FOREVER to get to the comment box. Little Miss was the same way. At 8 she is all of 50 pounds and almost as tall as me. Some kids are just tiny. Hey I was 55 pounds until I was 14. I was 98 pounds when I got pregnant for the first time. Enjoy the time while she is still small, she will grow one day, I promise.
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Elise is small for her age – just like Ella – barely been on the growth charts, too. And yes, we get those nasty comments, too. The worst comment we ever got? “She looks like a midget baby!” Seriously? WTF?
It’s compounded because Nicholas is big for his age, so people always expect him to be able to do more than he can do (because they think he’s older) and that’s a whole ‘nother problem.
And then there are the comments of “why is one of your kids so big and the other so little? You really shouldn’t let him eat all her food. That’s why she’s not growing!” (Interesting side note: Elise outeats Nicholas (who is older by 3 years) at every meal.)
Really, people. W.T.F.!!!
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J- kids do funny things. Mine was in the 75% for weight at 9 months and by 18 was just hovering over the 5% mark. I’m so glad you aren’t worried. I’m not either. They change fundamentally so much in the first few years.
And, she is SAUCY! And, is looking JUSTLIKEYOU!
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She’s small only in a way that makes you want to cuddle up to her and love all over her.
Hello! Why can’t those asshats see that?! Stupid asshats.
Next time some asshat does that, tell them, as if you are being polite (ha!) that they have a booger in their nose. I double dog dare you.
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Unsolicited comments like that suck ass.
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awwww- she’s perfect.
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She’s very cute!! I love the cape.
And who cares what everyone thinks, if you think she’s fine, then really, who else matters. As long as she gains weight and doesn’t lose it, the speed at which the weight is gained shouldn’t really be an issue.
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People are stupid. I have always gotten comments from old hags that I need to put mine on a diet because she’s way too big for her age. Um, yeah, she started out that way, I suspect she’ll stay that way. It’s all good because when she’s all big and grown-up, she’ll be able to stomp on the old hags.
Ella looks like she might be able to kick some old hag ass right now. Maybe you should sic her on them.
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“You” people deserve that kick in the teeth. Our best friend’s daughter is 5, she has already been passed in weight and height by her two year old brother. She is small and adorable and nobody is worried. They could share some sympathy with you.
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Oh my goodness, she is too freakin’ adorable! Some kids are just smaller than others, people should back off. Besides, how can they notice anything other than how cute she is?!
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my first was EXACTLY like that. and she just turned 7. she’s still on the small side…but she’s 100% FINE and i can’t even count the number of people i gave the stink-eye to…who felt it necessary to comment and tell me that i wasn’t feeding her enough and that clearly i was an unfit mother for having a small child.
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Wow, nice to see how many small kiddos there are out there!
My guys are tiny, not on the charts. They’re short AND thin! We luckily have a non-reactive doctor who doesn’t freak out about things. Also, my kids are half-Filipino and hello?! Compared to their cousins, they’re actually kinda big.
I am glad you won’t let anyone mess with you about your daughter’s size. I felt the same way but MAN did I get tired of hearing it. The comments actually seem to have slowed down as he got older. Maybe now that he is talking and walking people don’t feel like they can talk about him as if he weren’t there.
Now, there’s an idea! Babies aren’t deaf ya know?
Cute pic.
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Oh gosh – she’s adorable. my niece is small too – and adorable. She just turned two, but I remember when she started walking (early – like 9 months or something) it was just too cute! Small and saucy. A good combo.
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She’s cute. She’s healthy. She’s cuddly. She’s SUPER BABY!!!
AND if they don’t like it tell them to bugger off!! Some people are just too nosey for words.
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They are just jealous they aren’t as cute and petitie.
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Your little girl is adorable, and as long as she is healthy then I wouldn’t worry. People cannot believe that my daughter is about to turn three. She only weighs 24 pounds and she is short. I always get the shocked look, but I’m 5’0 and didn’t break 100 pounds until I got pregnant, so I guess she takes after me. My little girl has more energy than I know what to do with and she is very healthy so people can suck it.
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Isn’t it weird? It’s just so weird to me what people choose to focus on. It’s like they forget what it feels like to have someone react like that to something.
It’s a struggle (for me) to keep my bearings and my perspective in the face of those kinds of responses and ‘concerned’ comments.
But I love the sauc-ay. LOVE it.
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Oooh, I love me some petite little girls – so cute and small and sweet on the outside and SAUC-AY on the inside!! My cousin’s girls are the same and it bugs her too.
My boys, on the other hand…big kids. My mom and I were doing a count for a family dinner and she said, oh, the kids don’t eat much, and I was like “HUH? Have you seen my boys eat? They have to be counted as adults when it comes to food!” LOL.
Goes both ways my friend, you just have to throw some sauc-ay responses out when people make comments until she can speak up for herself.
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Uh, I meant the COMMENTS bug my cousin, not her petite girls!! oops.
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I think she looks gorgeous! And happy and healthy and isn’t that what counts?!!
Cute photo!!
I know what you mean, my Maya was and still is tiny for her age.
Your daughter is SUCH a cutie!!!
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I think she’s absotively precious. Piglet is 4 1/2 and weighs 27lbs. My favorite comment? Where does he get his thinness from? (Obviously not from me)
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She’s just beautiful!
what a cutie pootootie! People: open mouth, insert “shut the he!! up!”
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So sorry that HOB is living down there. I wish she would keep her fool mouth shut!
She is a beautiful girl (just like her mama).
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I’m always fanatical about not commenting on appearance — probably because I worked with teenagers, I guess! Anyway, what I say to all babies (and especially yours!) is “She’s beautiful.”
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We are at the opposite end of the spectrum. “Wow, your girls are so tall!” Yeah, and now that you’ve become the 437th person to point it out this week, I just saw their shoulders scrunch down a little. Shut UP already.
And what’s with gushing about the beauty of one of them and saying nothing about the other girl? Yes, my youngest is beautiful, but how do you think her sister feels when you turn to her and merely say hi?
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Cape? No pants? Are you at my house?
I get the opposite. I have giant children so people always think they’re older and have that same shocked expression when I say how old they really are.
People don’t know what they’re talking about. You know that it’s just your family and the pediatrician that matter.
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“You” is an idiot! That is one adorable little girl you have there!
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I love the cape! hehehe.
My husband is one of those guys who talks before he thinks. Right IN FRONT of our daycare owner’s son, who is very small, he said, “Wow, he’s a small guy for 12.” You could tell they were both use to it. I asked him, for like the five-thousandth time to please shut it. Someday he will get both of our asses kicked, I’m sure of it.
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She may be small, but good lord she’s got plenty of personality to make up for it! Look at that face!
She’s adorable, Jennifer. And anyone who harps on how small she is should be kicked. She looks perfectly healthy.
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She is such a cutie! G just made it on the charts at his 15month visit. He was under the 3% for weight and height, and his head was in th 95%. But he is now in the 50% for weight, 10% for height, and head still in the 95%. They catch up! And she is jsut too cute !
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my daughter has the same sweater. your baby is very cute, such pretty eyes.
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I know that I am not the first to say this but I have 4 words for you: Good things, small packages.
She’s adorable and perfect.
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Blah i hate it when people feel the need to comment, both my kids are small and i think its cute. Becca was 18lbs at 18 months and i swear people think i starve her.
She looks plenty cute and healthy to me
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