I have a question to ask about your husbands. Before I do, though, let me just be clear…I’m not saying that men are dumb idiots, ewww, yuck, blech MEN! No. I’m simply asking a question.
Let me set up the scenario. Husband can’t find something and calls to you to help him find it. “Honey! I can’t find the ointment/peanut butter/towels/shoes/whatever.”
You call back, “Honey! It’s right there on the shelf/in the drawer/on the floor/where ever!”
Somehow the Husband cannot find the item. You are beckoned to come find it for him. You are irritated because you KNOW that the item is RIGHT THERE. You huff and puff and roll your eyes on your way to find this item for him.
And voila! There it is. It truly is RIGHT THERE. Husband would have found it if he had looked behind, over, beside….. Instead of putting any effort into the search, he asked for your help. Instead of being grateful, he’s irritated that it wasn’t in plain view, and that he’d have to actually LOOK.
This male pattern blindness, as I like to call it, also occurs in the kitchen. Let’s say that the Husband offers to clean up after dinner, but cleaning up only entails putting dirty dishes in the washer. It does not include wiping the counters, sweeping the floor, or hand-washing any items not suitable for the dishwasher. When the “over sight” is mentioned, the Husband claims not to have “seen” the smeary counters, crumby floor, or giant high chair tray in the sink.
Does this happen to all husbands or just the one I’m married to named Tate?