We have met every single person in our neighborhood. It truly isn’t much of a feat considering there are only six other homes so far in my neighborhood. Every person we’ve met is extraordinarily friendly (and I’m not just saying that because several of them know about this blog and might be reading…**Hi neighbors!**)
Although that good for nothing Mother Nature didn’t bless us with the promised nice weather this past weekend, she has attempted to make up for it with the most perfect weather imaginable these past three days. With this good weather, our family and most of my neighbors have taken every opportunity to get outside. We wave at one another as we go for walks, or pedal by on a bicycles, or are outside watering the newly planted flowers.
We are a jovial bunch, me and the peeps in mah ‘hood.
I mention all of this because of ONE woman who lives in an adjoining neighborhood who has also been riding her bike in our neighborhood. I certainly don’t mind if she rides in our neighborhood, it’s not as if we are a gated community trying to keep people out. In fact there are lots of folks who meander into our neighborhood, waving and smiling as they walk past.
Except for that ONE woman. I have said “hello” to her every evening, waved, and made eye contact. Her response?
Nothing.
She just keeps pedaling away, without so much as a head nod to acknowledge my greeting.
The first time I thought that perhaps she didn’t hear me, possibly due to some sort of hearing impairment and NOT some sort of asshattery. The second time, when I’m certain we were looking at one another, and she ignorned me yet again, I considered the possibility that she was blind and hearing impaired. Seeing as how she was riding a bike and avoiding all the construction debris in the road, I feel confident that she is not blind. I suppose it’s still a possibility that she’s hearing impaired, but my suspicion is that she’s social niceties impaired. Or in other words some sort of asshattery is indeed at play here.
The next time she smugly pedals past my house, I’m tempted to yell at her, “Didn’t your mother teach you manners?!” or “What’s your PROBLEM, HUH!?” or “HEEEELLLLOOOO!!!!!” Of course, all of these sentences would be preceded by the always attention getting “Hey LAAAADDDY!”
But that would make me as obnoxious as her.
My goal is to get her to reciprocate a greeting. I’d be happy with a nod, happier with a slight wave of the hand, and downright gleeful if she spoke back. It’s a lofty goal, I know. But, I won’t give up. I’ll wave and say hello every. single. time. I see her until I get that coveted response.
Stick around for updates! I’ll go make a pitcher of lemonade while you wait to show off my really awesome neighborly skills.
MizFit
April 24, 2008 at 5:21 am
I always turn to my husband in those scenarios and announce it is time for OKHWK (operation kill her with kindness)
if nothing else the op cracks me the hell up.
people
are
odd
(come live in my ‘hood! we quirky but we friendly
)
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Andria
April 24, 2008 at 6:59 am
LOL
This reminds me of the time when we first moved into our friendly neighborhood and the house across the street was for sale by the realtor who lived three doors down from me. I would wave and speak to her every time she walked down to show that house until finally one morning, she got in her car and drove the fifty or so yards to show that house to avoid my attempts at niceness.
Of course, now she likes to fill my mailbox with postcards of her smiling, friendly self wanting to list my house each and every week. But I remember her.
Keep on waving. Maybe she can’t ride with one hand?
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Sister Honey Bunch
April 24, 2008 at 7:25 am
Seriously, what would cause her to not respond? Even with just a smile. Very strange.
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Dawn @ Coming to a Nursery Near You
Twitter: dawniemom
April 24, 2008 at 7:28 am
ok, this totally sounds like a plot point in a sitcom. LOL
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AndreAnna
April 24, 2008 at 7:50 am
I think you should put on a track suit and sneakers and next time she rides by, run right along next to her, but don’t say anything.
Or wear a shoddy bathrobe, cover yourself in ketchup and go throw yourself in front of her path next time she rides past
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CauseImThaMommaThatsWhy
April 24, 2008 at 7:54 am
AssHattery.. I love it. Jennifer, youre awsome.
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Marti
April 24, 2008 at 8:14 am
This sounds like it could be an awesome Seinfel or Friends episode.
But seriously WTH? WAVE WOMAN! I hate when people are freaks like that.
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AMomTwoBoys
April 24, 2008 at 8:18 am
What is this, Alabama?
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DeuceMom
April 24, 2008 at 8:27 am
That’s so weird. We had an across-the-street neighbor that ignored the heck out of us until he back out of his driveway and hit out truck and then he was all superfriendly b/c we didn’t ask him for any money. I don’t know what’s worse – bad manners or fake nice. You sound like a nice neighbor – when we buy our island you may visit.
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Alison
April 24, 2008 at 8:27 am
My parents have lived in the same neighborhood for 23 years and there are still neighbors that don’t say hello! 23 YEARS?!?!?!?!?!?!!!!!!
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mep
April 24, 2008 at 8:27 am
I like AndreAnna’s suggestion of you suiting up to run alongside her bike. That is hilarious!
My suggestion is to kick your own greetings up another notch or two so that you are so over-the-top friendly that she will be forced to respond in some manner.
There is a clique of women at the park district where my son takes classes who are social niceties impaired. I have yet to garner a smile or even any acknowledgement that I am alive, breathing, and standing within three feet of them . . . one of them even goes to my church and yet never seems to “recognize” me. I’m now convinced I’d dislike her if I met her, but I am still obsessed with getting a “hi’ out of her or at least a little eye contact.
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Mandy
April 24, 2008 at 8:33 am
We had neighbors like that when we first moved here. Until one day, the (very intimidating) woman realized that her granddaughter was in my daughter’s class. Then, she was all smiles and chats. Who knows? She still scares the living daylights out of some of our other neigbors, but is friendly as can be with us.
Also, my husband has a knack for bringing out the best in some of our more reserved neighbors. All week, I’ll wave and smile – maybe getting the same in return, maybe not. But, when Hubby comes home, they are all, “Hey! How’s that job? Any bites on the house?” *sigh*
Keep on trying! You’re the good one. You’re the good one.
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Mommy Daisy
Twitter: mommydaisy
April 24, 2008 at 8:47 am
That’s right, Jennifer, just NICE her to death. That’s exactly what I would do.
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tommie
April 24, 2008 at 8:54 am
Ooh, I can’t wait to see how this goes.
No matter how many times we move, I ALWAYS run into one person like that. In San Francisco, I even had someone tell me, “I am not here to make friends.” I laughed because I thought they were joking. They weren’t!
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Cassey
April 24, 2008 at 8:55 am
You can break her down. Your will is stronger than hers.
So I went to the blogger’s choice award site, I voted for you by the way. But I noticed you have an adult content warning. Huh? Did I miss a naughty post? What’s considered adult content?
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wright
April 24, 2008 at 8:57 am
Ohhh, I HATE it when people don’t acknowledge that I’ve said something to them! Total Asshattery!
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Velveteen Mind - Megan
Twitter: velveteenmind
April 24, 2008 at 9:16 am
When people would enter my tiny stationery shop in New Orleans and proceed to ignore my every greeting, I would tell myself that they were foreign tourists.
Then, when they said something in English at the register, I would say, “Oh, I didn’t realize you speak English.”
I’m not kidding.
I would also tell people that talked on their cell phone the entire time they were in the store, “No, that’s okay. I’ll wait until you are finished with your call. I don’t want to interrupt.” Yep. Wouldn’t ring them up.
I’m not kidding.
People.
Maybe start saying random greetings in different languages every night. Tonight, try Spanish. Tomorrow, French. The next day, Italian.
Eventually, she has to at least smile at your insanity.
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Julie D.
Twitter: AngryJulie
April 24, 2008 at 9:24 am
I’m jealous. I hate all of our neighbors. Especially the ones next door. I run away when they are outside.
I want a neighborhood where everyone is nice and friendly.
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all things BD
April 24, 2008 at 9:29 am
Ooooooohhhhhh, you’re like Diane Lane in Under the Tuscan Sun where she’s trying to get the old man who comes and puts flowers on the wall each day to acknowledge her. Only he’s obviously bitter from a long ago tragedy, and she’s probably just constipated.
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Maria
Twitter: maria0305
April 24, 2008 at 9:51 am
Maybe try flicking her off???
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CourtneyRyan
April 24, 2008 at 9:51 am
First thank you for the new word. I love it “AssHattery” It has been added to my vocabulary to be used a minimum of 3 times today. (And the people I know? It might be more.)
Second, your readers are too smart! I was going to suggest the running shoes and track suit and jogging along with her, but they’ve beat me to the point. Also, I totally agree that killing her with kindness is the way to go. There was a miserable person at the place I used to get my coffee and I was nice to her every.single.day until one day I got a smile from her. The next day a chuckle and so on. Other people want to know why she’s so nice to me now!
You can do this. I have faith!
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Angie
April 24, 2008 at 9:56 am
I think the nicest thing you could do is to keep smothering her with kindness. Maybe she takes her bike rides very seriously. Maybe she is going through a really bad time. Maybe she is shy. Or maybe she is an asshat. Whichever, I look forward to your updates.
KEEP BELIEVING
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Sandy
April 24, 2008 at 10:06 am
LOL Just keep saying hello. Eventually she will get guilty and nod or something.
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Mama DB
April 24, 2008 at 10:08 am
nice. you could throw a bunch of tacks in the street and then have the lemonade and band aids waiting for her. She’d think you were so nice!
We have a crazy cyclist who frequently uses our street (a good hill) for exercise. He goes up and he comes down. He goes up and he goes down. If another biker comes up the street, he’ll shoot over to them and taunt them as they huff it up the hill.
One time I was out in the front yard with a friend and her kids. We started laughing about something just as the crazy person cycled by. He actually thought we were laughing at him and for about a month would make snide comments about me whenever he passed our house. Whether or not I was outside. Unbelievable.
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April
April 24, 2008 at 10:47 am
Why do we have to have such grouchy neighbors? I think every neighborhood has one. We have a man in our neighborhood that doesn’t like kids. My son being a tween and loves to play practical jokes. All the kids in our neighborhood go around ringing the door bell and run. They are now calling it “Ding Dong Ditch”. Maybe they always called it that I just called it something else. But anyway, he did it to the wrong person! This man came to my house and told me what my son had done. I told him it would never happen again. Not 20 minutes later a sheriff shows up at my house. This man called him and had him come talk to my son. Now was that really necessary for a ding dong ditch????
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Phoenix
April 24, 2008 at 10:53 am
Try to teach Ella to say Hi to her every time you see her. If she doesn’t say hi to the baby, then she’s an evil asshat and I’d stear clear of her.
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(the other) Maggie
April 24, 2008 at 10:54 am
Please continue fighting the good fight against asshattery in all corners (or just the Hoosier corners – I’ll continue to take care of the Pacific Northwest) because people who don’t know how (or know how and just refuse to be the kind of asshat you described) to just show common courtesy niceties really just annoy the snot out of me. I would say her mother was probably an inconsiderate whore, but last time I said that, I offended someone (true story). Go figure.
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Elle
April 24, 2008 at 11:00 am
Can’t wait for the updates! It’s obvious it won’t end well for the woman. She’ll either be killed by kindness or she’ll have to find a different neighborhood to exercise.
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Amy
Twitter: stellaandthomas
April 24, 2008 at 11:02 am
We had a neighbor that wouldn’t talk to us for the longest time and we kept trying…now she talks to us but she is such an a**hole.
I should have known:-)
Lisa
April 24, 2008 at 11:03 am
I vote for yelling the “Heeeeey Laaaaady! ” at her !
*snort*
Jen
April 24, 2008 at 11:03 am
I’d plant the kids in the driveway on their bikes and when they saw her coming to ride toward her (not into her) and see if she slows, stops, or interacts!
My luck they’d run INTO her and make her crash.
Sorry never mind. Can’t wait to hear your version.
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justmylife
April 24, 2008 at 11:07 am
I was going to ask if you thought you still lived in Bama, considerind you are expecting that nice southern way to surface with this…um…lady, but since the rest of the area is so polite, maybe she is just an asshat. Kill her with kindness, maybe try….Evening Bitch! Last part might at least get her to crash so you can question her and she can’t get away. heehee! Waiting for the updates.
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Megan
April 24, 2008 at 11:11 am
I have a daily jogger in my neighborhood who will only wave to my husband. I wave at him and he never responds. Even when we make eye contact and are a few feet away from each other. Maybe he hates women? Maybe he is still mad at me of almost backing into him… I kid. Kind of.
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The Mom Bomb
April 24, 2008 at 11:20 am
Moon her. You know you want to. Have your kids moon her, too.
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the planet of janet
Twitter: planetofjanet
April 24, 2008 at 12:28 pm
“asshattery”
jennifer, i love you.
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Queen of Shake Shake
April 24, 2008 at 1:06 pm
See, told you me and the heathen gods are like *this*. Snow in spring, earthquakes. Just wait to see what we have planned next!
Let me plop out my psy degree and say she’s probably a very insecure person. You should show her how the very secure act and maybe she’d learn from you.
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Miss
April 24, 2008 at 1:12 pm
That is way more than I would do. Which makes you a much nicer person than me.
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poopsy
April 24, 2008 at 1:36 pm
I’m afraid I’m one of those impaired people. Not that I wouldn’t respond, but I wouldn’t be waving to people on bicycles either. Neighborhoods need more people like you. I’ll bet you bake people pies and welcome them to the neighborhood, don’t you? Or organize block parties.
I suck.
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Nicole
April 24, 2008 at 1:37 pm
Why don’t you put tacks in the road. Then when her tire pops she’ll be forced to stop. You can then run to her aid. That’ll give you a chance to determine once and for all what’s up her bike seat.
Anglophile Football Fanatic
April 24, 2008 at 1:39 pm
You go get the witchy woman! Make her speak to you.
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Maggie
April 24, 2008 at 1:46 pm
Gah! People who don’t acknowledge others make me CRAZY! My vote is that you have Carson and Ella wave at her…because could anyone resist the cuteness of those kids? I think not!
And if she can resist, I would totally reconsider her being able to see.
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ali
April 24, 2008 at 1:49 pm
you are a way better neighbor than i….at this point i wouldn’t be able to be nice any longer…and inner ali-bitch would come out!
Amanda (Shamelessly Sassy)
April 24, 2008 at 2:08 pm
My daughter Allie would continuously say hi to someone until they said hi back when she was a baby. Perhaps you should apply such ruthless tactics. haha. On a serious note, I hate when people can’t just wave or nod.
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Devan
April 24, 2008 at 2:38 pm
hmm, how rude! Sometimes I don’t say anything, but I always AT LEAST smile and nod or wave…
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MamaGeek
April 24, 2008 at 4:01 pm
Why is it people can suck so much and just not care? Does she not know the internet sensation that YOU are?
We have one lady like that (who we of COURSE nicknamed like we do all the neighbors we don’t know – ‘orange lady’ cuz she fake bakes). BLECH!
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Musing
April 24, 2008 at 5:17 pm
Wishing you success in your mission!
I hope you have better results than I did. In the townhouse we used to live in, the mom next door ignored me the whole time we were neighbors, which was impressive seeing how our front doors were only a few yards away!
Molly's Mom
April 24, 2008 at 5:38 pm
Call it pragmatic language tx and take some data…lol…
pgoodness
Twitter: pgoodness
April 24, 2008 at 7:46 pm
Oh, I HATE that! In my neighborhood, the worst is when people are driving by, look right at me – I WAVE and smile, and they JUST. KEEP. LOOKING. No wave, no head nod, no nuthin. Annoys me to no end.
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Loralee
April 24, 2008 at 7:50 pm
This reminds me of the movie, Under the Tuscan Sun, where Diane Lane has a goal to get the old guy with the flowers to smile at her.
Hee.
And? I think Indiana sent her crappy weather to dump on Utah, dammit.
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In the Trenches of Mommyhood
Twitter: sarahviz
April 24, 2008 at 9:32 pm
Are you sure it’s not the Wicked Witch of the West?
Do you hear that music as she’s riding by on her bike?
Dunh dunh dunh da da da
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