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September 23, 2008 | Filed in: Huh?, Indiana, hole-y matrimony, my stream of consciousness, tennessee

I’ve been trying to write these words for days and haven’t been able to form my muddled and numb thoughts into sentences. In a very short amount of time, my life has been completely turned upside down. I vacillate between intense woeful crying jags to sheer, bitter rage where I want to hit someone.

Tate has been transferred AGAIN.

We are moving to Tennessee.

I feel bitterly angry that I allowed myself to finally feel at home someplace. In the ten years that I have been with Tate, we have moved at every request of the company. For me, I moved begrudgingly and suspiciously and have watched over my shoulder and held my breath waiting for his company to call with our next move.

This time, though, I allowed myself to dream what it would be like to raise my children here, in THIS place. I allowed myself to breathe after ten years. I immersed ourselves into this town and embraced all it had to offer. We have made friends and we have made plans. We have made a life and a home here in Indiana. Never once had it occurred to me that I shouldn’t root myself and branch out and allow myself that hope of home.

I feel bruised and numb all at the same time.

Right now I have no desire to write. My mind swirls with nothing except relocation companies, mortgages, real estate, and moving vans. I don’t know if I’m taking a blogging hiatus for awhile or if the desire to write will return as I digest and stew on this information. If you’ve recently emailed me, I will reply sometime. I’m purposely ignoring my inbox because I simply do not have the power to think past myself and my family right now.

At least if we have to move, it’s to beautiful Tennessee and luckily we already root for the right team.

And you want to know something funny? I just got my Indiana driver’s license last week. I’m supposed to pick up my Indiana license plate tomorrow. [insert maniacal laughter and tears]

Ugh. I’m so sorry. It’s really tough to uproot the whole family like that.

Yes, TN is beautiful. I hope you guys get to stay there for a while.

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Oh, my dear! I am SO sorry. Tennessee is beautiful, but seriously… Again?! I would hit someone. I would. I really, really would.

I’m so sorry.

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((((Hugs))) That sucks. Tennessee is an okay place to go though. I am praying for relocation myself, because that would mean my husband actually had a job! Keep your chin up, it’s just a new adventure! At least your kids are not in school yet, so you don’t have to transfer schools. (((hugs))) again.

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I am not at all religious, but I like the saying “we plan, God laughs”. Maniacally, I’m guessing.

I’m sorry that you’re moving again (and omg, does that mean that you’ll have to redesign your header?!) but please stop this ‘I don’t feel like writing’ thing. I need many many more tutorials.

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I am going to have to change my header! I was thinking the tagline could say something like “on tour since 1999″ and have some sort of band kind of look…if anyone wants to make me one, that would be cool. HINT.

And as far as tutorials, what would you like to know? I’m out of material…

Noooooooooooooooooooo……….

that’s all I got. seriously sad.

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Ugh, I’m so sorry. I moved every three years growing up, so I know how you feel about finally feeling like you could call someplace home.

I hope you’re able to embrace Tennessee. I think the “on-tour” idea for your tag line is great!

That is really not fair. I am so sorry. I can’t imagine how it must be for you to constantly uproot your family and move. Emotionally and physically. Man. That is really rough. I’m sorry.

And I will now stop complaining about moving across town.
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Oh girl, I’m so sorry. I feel ya. We moved over 10 times across the country in a few years thanks to corporate relo’s.

AND! IT SUCKS A DUCK!

I won’t blow smoke up your ass too much - but at least Tennessee is pretty.

If you want, meetcha at drink-thirty.

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Oh Jenn. I am thinking of you and your family and truly hope you can find a little brightness in the gloom.

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OMG…..I’m so, so sorry. Will it at least be Memphis? The Red Birds (The Cardinals minor league team) plays there…

I’m just shaking my head. I just don’t see how you do it. I’m so, sorry. Hugs.

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OMG! No freaking way. Oh honey, I am so so sorry. I can’t believe it. You just got there, how can you have to move already??? But we haven’t even met yet!!!!!!!!

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Oh, I am so sorry. I can only imagine the disappointment and frustration you’re feeling.

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i know this is a tough one for you… and i’m sending BIG hugs.

and it IS pretty there.

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*SQUEEEEEZE*

That’s all I got.

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I’m so sorry…that’s just plain crappy.

How soon is this all going down?

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That really sucks - I’m sorry to hear it.

I am so sorry that you have to move, again. How utterly frustrating. My sister lived in Nashville for a couple of years and still says that it’s the nicest place that she ever lived…and not just because it was pretty, but because the people there are great too. You like country music, right??

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On the Bright side, Blissfully Domestic is having theat shindig in Nashville on the 18th of October. You’ll be closer. Check out Lotus’ post today. You DO know Lotus, right?

Sarcastic Mom.

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That truly sucks. What does he do to have to move so soon after moving AGAIN? I mean…you haven’t been in the new place that long??

I can say that TN isn’t SOO bad…I mean I did live there for 25 years of my life.

Hang in there!!

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Oh no Jennifer. I am so sorry. Offering you many virtual hugs.

But the tag line, “On tour since 1999″ is really great. Hope it all falls into place.

Aww sweetie I’m so sorry! You seemed to be enjoying IN.

Hang in there. It’ll be ok.

HUGS Let me know if you want me to send NY wine. It’s quite good in these parts.

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Man, I’m so sorry. It sucks harder than a Dyson to have to move across the country, and doing it that many times is just plain awful.

On the completely selfish side of things, you had better still be in Indiana around Thanksgiving so I can stalk you proper. And if not? You had be headed to the Nashville area. I might be willing to visit the other in-laws if it means another stalking opportunity. (Why yes, it is all about me and my ability to stalk peeps.)

*hugs*

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My husband uprooted us to TN 4 years ago. I went kicking and screaming, but it actually is a wonderful place. We’re back in MD now after 3 years there, but I do look back fondly. It’s not Chattanooga by chance, is it?

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Well, as a current (and lifelong) resident of Tennessee, can I just say that we’ll be happy to have you! Moving sucks and moving consistently REALLY sucks. Hope it’s not too horrible for you, but maybe this move will be the last one. For a very long time.

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I’m so sorry. {{{Hugs}}}

I am going to act like I just didn’t read that!!!!!! Damn me for reading your blog today!!!! Call me when you can breathe & we will go have a drink & cry together. No more biker bars?

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Oh Jen. I’m so sorry. Take your time-your family needs you to be ‘all there’ for this. I know that you’ll get through this (and you do too!) but I also know that it sucks to get invested somewhere and then get uprooted. Like you said, it’s at least somewhere familiar. All of us will be here, rooting you on, here for advice, or a shoulder to cry on. If I was there I would come over with chocolate! and let you vent.

Kisses, Friend!

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Oh I’m so sorry. Being constantly uprooted has to be so hard for you all.

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It’s soon. Like right now. As soon as the relo company can get it arranged, we’re going to sell our house, buy a house and move.

Ugh. I know how much moving sucks. Especially when it’s not just you and your college stuff anymore.
If it’s any comfort… I grew up with a dad subject to the whims of his company. We only had to move once, but he was out of town ALL.THE.TIME when I was young. So, at least if Tate gets to come home every night that’s a plus.
That said, it was a lot harder on my mom than on us kids I think. If it’s any consolation, your kids will be fine!
Oh, and think of all the cool bloggers you’ll get to meet in Tennessee…

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I know that feeling very well. I am so, so sorry.

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No I won’t be here at Thanksgiving. And no it’s not Nashville…but I might come visit you there! It’s only about 2 hours away…

No it’s not Chattanooga, but it’s not far from there…

We actually lived in Tennessee for four years at the beginning of Tate’s career. We loved it there.

One of the only good things about moving is the fact that it’s TN. We lived there before so at least we already have a few friends and know the area and schools.

I’m so sorry! Moving so much sucks!!
I’m only about an hour & a 1/2 or less from both Nashville and Chattanooga, so maybe now we can meet for reals.
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Oh my God, Jen. When?? I am so very sorry. I can only imagine how you feel. I will be leaving my home in just a little while, too, and it is horrible. I am so so sorry.

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Oh Jennifer! I am so sorry…it is hard to make a place feel like home, so to have to leave so quickly…well, it just $ucks!

The last three moves for us have been at 23 months, 11 1/2 month, and 11 months. I was so glad to finally settle in one place once we got here. Moving that often isn’t good for anyone!

Do what you need to do to take care of yourself! I’ll be reading if you decide to come back.

Best wishes….

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this must be so hard for you and your family. what does tate do that they move him so much ????

the only words i can say is that at least he has a job, in this economy and all. hang in there and hope you get the will to write more.

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I do know all about the moving all the time. I hope that you find something to enjoy in Tennessee.

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oh no! Talk about a shock! I am so sorry.

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OMG, we must now be sworn enemies since I live in Kentucky!!

OK, I don’t even follow basketball so I couldn’t really care less.

TN really is pretty. You will love it.

I am so sorry you’re dealing with another move with 2 young kids…I can’t imagine how difficult that is, especially since you’ve found comfort in this town I will be thinking about you in the weeks ahead and that you can eventually find peace with this move…really hard stuff.

I know its hard right now .. but try to keep your chin up. You NEVER know .. this could turn out to be the BEST.THING.EVER.
You’ll be in my thoughts and prayers.
Love
Madness

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I’m so sorry. Take care.

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I know you were loving your new state. I hate you have to leave it.

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We have been with Caterpillar for 12 years and they move us (and our friends) A LOT. However, there is always such a strong Caterpillar group everywehre we move that is also so used to moving around a lot that we tend to get close FAST. Maybe Tate’s company has something like that? Lots of other transient families? A thought, althought I am sure you have already thought of that.

You will find, though, that the entire mood for your family with respect to this move will reflect what yours is. If you can feign excitement, then your kids will be excited and Tate will be excited. If you react with remorse and fear and bitterness, so will your family. I know it sucks, but I think you will find with your kids getting older now, they will have more uneasiness in this move than you realize (our kids were 2 and 3 when we moved to Canada years ago and WAY more affected than I had anticipated), so the safer and more relaxed you can make them feel (because you are eminating it yourself) the better it will go.

Not that you need to put on a happy face and not be sad, but it is what it is and I hope you can make the best of it.

Maybe you will get to meet Sarcastic Mom. and it is still not THAT far from Missouri. Easy drive anyway.

KEEP BELIEVING

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I am so sorry! That totally sucks, and you have every reason to feel the way you do.

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That SUCKS big time. I’m sorry.
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Ugh, that is so rough. I’m sorry you’ll be uprooted again. Hang tough.

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Jennifer–
I can’t imagine having to move AGAIN so soon! How scary, annoying, terrible, tiring and crummy. What part of the state are you moving to (ie, BBQ, Country Music or Football)? My family is there (and didn’t Tate maybe go to school there or am I dreaming that?)
Good luck!

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Hey Jen, I know exactly how you feel. I wish I had some good advice, but I think *I* need advice too! We’ve lived in 3 homes in 5 homes in 10 years and Texan Papa just told me that he’ll be watching for a position back up in the Midwest (where we’re from). We just moved her 5 months ago and I can’t think about moving again right now. But, just wanted to tell you, it gets easier each time. And, it builds solidarity through your family. You really have to rely on each other. That doesn’t make the move easier, but I thought I’d throw in one platitude anyway!

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I’m sorry. I can’t even imagine. Sending good thoughts your way.

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I’m so sorry. We move every 2-3 years because we’re with the Foreign Service, and though it’s fun to BE places, it’s never fun to LEAVE places. Moving is truly a hard thing to do. I’ve been in China for over a year now, and am only just now beginning to put down roots (in time for the next move, no doubt). One thing this moving has taught me: you will find your way in the next city. It may take awhile, during which there are lots of no-fun moments. But you will find the friends and the shops and the things that you need just when you need them. Good luck to you.

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Oh boy. I feel your pain baby. As someone who has moved her entire life, I know exactly how hard it is to pick up and leave again. Sucks. Ass.

At the risk of asking the annoyingly obvious question, when is this all planned for?

I hear Tennessee is really nice. Is there a chance that his company will make you move again or will you be able to look forward to settling there?

We’re about to embark on a huge move ourselves, so I imagine my husband is experiencing some of the same emotions as you.

(HUGS)

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Oh my goodness. I’m so sorry to hear that. We’re here for you. You know you can complain to all of us. I missed your posts while you were away. I wish you the best of luck in relocated again.

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Big bloggy (((HUGS))). It’s really been a shitty day all around looks like.

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We just found out that we’re moving too. Hubby’s job is taking us about an hour west, so I guess it’s not a big move. It still sucks - big time. New doctors, new grocery, new friends, ugh. I’m already tired just thinking about it.

All the best to you as you move…

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Oh man, that’s awful. I hate moving and hope to never do it again. I hope it goes as smoothly as possible for your sake.

I am SO sorry!! I cannot imagine… You are a better wife than I, my dear….

HUH?????? Oh my! I’m so sorry, I’m going to miss you guys!!!

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I’m so sorry for the crummy, nay, devastating news.

Take a few minutes to get the wind back in your sails; hopefully the horizon will look better in the morning.

(cheesy enough? maybe go kick something inanimate, that always makes me feel better)

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That has to be difficult to deal with now that you feel settled and happy where you are. Hope you feel better about things soon.

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I’m so sorry! You seemed so happy in Indiana. My husband and I move a lot as well, and I am completely miserable with our current location (it’s much the way you felt about Alabama.) We actually moved here from East Tennessee, and it’s a really beautiful area. After living in a not friendly place, I can tell you that the people there are very nice. I’ve also lived in Memphis, and it’s a nice place as well. Hopefully you’ll like Tennessee and maybe you won’t have to move after a few months.

Meredith´s lastest post..Where’s the lemon?

:::hugs::: Moving stinks, it’s not a consolation to think one has become a pro at it at all, is it?
Glad to hear it’s not going completely into the unknown at this time at least, hang in there!

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I can relate on so many levels. We just had our 10th move in 15 years. And we moved to Tennessee. Last month. And I told my husband that this HAS to be our last move. I.Can’t.Take.It Anymore.Best of luck with the move.

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I’m so sorry for all the upheaval. If it helps any, I’m in TN, and if you’re moving anywhere near me, we could meet. I know that’s a drop in the bucket, but it’s all I can offer. Hugs.

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Aw, Jennifer!
No! We were just getting to know one another! I’m SO sorry that you are having a hard time with it (as I’m SURE I would be). Prayers for peace coming your way. Take care, dear. Email me anytime. We need to do one last rendesvouz before you pack ‘em up, and head ‘em out.

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I can only imagine how hard this is for you….I still remember you being pregnant with Carson and crying in a staff meeting because you were moving….and that was like 2 moves ago……I’ll def. be thinking of you!

SO sorry Jennifer! If we had to move I would crawl into a corner and cry myself to sleep.

Sending hugs to you!

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Oh Jennifer, I’m so sorry. You must be furious, and you have every right to be. I can’t even imagine what it must be like, because I’ve never been forced to move out of state before.

Rant, cry, throw things if it helps any. I hope you can find some peace in this unexpected change in plans.

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Well then - looks like TN is beautiful! I think I’ve only driven through it. Maybe we will come visit you there. =)

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I am so sorry! That breaks my heart to hear that you have to leave your home…kudos to you for all of your moving though - the very thought makes me feel panicky, so you are handling it better than I ever would.

But I’ll be thinking of you - and hoping that you find a wonderful place to call home in TN.

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Oh Jennifer, I’m so sorry.

We too, move at the whim of the company. I feel your pain. You put this beautifully, despite your pain. I’m so terribly sorry.
I’m sure there’s a wonderful experience right around the corner for y’all. I’ll be praying for you.

Hugs.

OMG. HOW? WHY? WHAT?! *sigh* I just don’t know how you do it.

Sending love!

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I don’t know how you are even coping right now. You poor thing! Thinking about you here in CA.

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Oh dear–you poor thing. I can’t even imagine trying to pack up a house with all the kiddos’ stuff and moving. I hope this is your last move and you can grow some deep roots.

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I’m so sorry. I haven’t had to move nearly as much, but I did have to make a couple of major moves for my husband’s job, and it sucks. Hang in there.

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I hate moving. Missing friends, uprooted. Tennessee is beautiful, and full of loving wonderful people. I hope it feels like home quickly!

I actually worked for quite a while for a relocation company, and I worked with “national accounts” or a.k.a. relocating employees just like your family…it is a logistical whirlwind, I can only imagine going through it with two little ones! Hopefully everything gets settled for you quickly and your transition is smooth! This is selfish (because I like you and your blog!) but maybe you’ll feel like blogging for therapy? You’ll always have lots of well-wishers thinking of you!!!
Take care!

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So sorry, this totally sucks. I can’t imagine having to move so often with small children. It’s especially unfortunate since you like where you are. Hopefully all this moving will stop by the time the kids are in school.

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I’m sorry. Resettling is always so hard. Good luck with everything. (Hugs)

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The best part about MPS’s breakdown was no more moving. I totally understand your pain babe.

I am here to vent to if you need me K?

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I can’t imagine how it would be just getting settled and then having to move again.
It sounds so very stressful and painful.
I hope that things go smoothly for you over the next little while as you get used to the idea of being uprooted again.

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Wow!
Suddnely I’m Kelley! Pass me the yellow mustard!

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I’m sorry sweets - this sucks big time. Is there anyway that Tate can get the company to stop picking on him and start on someone else, just to give you guys a little more stability?

Oh, how stressful. We just had to move to a new apartment and now I need to learn to feel at “home” again since it’s a whole new neighborhood and section of town. I feel your pain in a small way. I’m glad you’re going somewhere you know and like. Hugs to you during this stressful time.

That totally sucks!

I get that feeling of not wanting to commit to a place being “home” and it’s such a shitty feeling.

My husband was laid off, oh, 14 weeks ago and I’m holding my breath with each interview…does this mean we can stay here? or move to MN? or CO? or TX? Aruba?

Our daughter just started 1st grade and I want to jump in and join PTA and all, but I’m so hesitant b/c we could be moving at the drop of a hat.

Hang in there. Everyone keeps telling me that it’ll work out for the best. I’m still waiting to see what that means.

Good luck…remember to breathe.

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Oh, I’m so sorry. I hope you guys find a happy place in TN.

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Man, that blows. Uprooting oneself it difficult, even more so when children are involved.

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wow. i feel for you - life falling apart and all that, somehow it eventually works out tho, i guess. take care.

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Hang in there, Momma.

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if you ever have the patience and time to read thru every comment, maybe you’ll read this one. if not, holy cow mama, wish you all the luck.

i’m a military brat. i have been uprooted, moved, shattered, bullied, exhilerated, frightened, bashful, nervous, anxious, depressed… everything. all at a very young age. i learned a lot of tough lessons at a young age.

i just want you to know that i was moved, way, way more than any child should ever be moved. and yet, there are people my age out there that were moved more, some are scarred more, some less. i walked away from that life with a lot of battle wounds.

but i also walked away with an amazing perspective on life, a huge heart that is extremely diverse and open-minded. your kids will eventually adjust as i’m sure they’ve done before. as will you. in the meantime, remember that your true roots are the ones you’ve built around you- your family. and tho you may move place to place that doesn’t mean they’re ever uprooted. if anything they cause you to be more grounded w/in your core family circle.

good luck to you and remember, this too shall pass, this is life, embrace new experiences (even if you want to poke someones eye out with a pencil.)

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I am sorry you are having to go through the turmoil of uprooting life. Tennessee is great though. I have lived here all my life and no matter where we move I think I will always end up here. If you are going to be in Middle TN we will be neighbors!

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Oh Jenn. My heart hurts for you. Truly, I’m so so sorry. We love you and will always be here for you. Hiatus or not.

Oh, honey. I’m so sorry.

Take your time. We’ll all be here waiting for you….

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Oh man, that blows! Didn’t you just get settled? Good luck with the move and know that there will be lots of people waiting for you to return to the blogosphere:)

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So sorry to hear that you guys are being uprooted again *hugs*

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Awwww… I’m sorry that you are having to move again; it’s so hard to do! I will be thinking good thoughts for you, Jennifer.

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I have one question…are they at least giving him a big fat raise??? I mean, to ask you to keep moving, especially since you JUST moved, they should compensate you guys! Maybe give you the money to buy your house!!!

Just a thought…

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what a bummer. i’m sorry. & i loved your creative header since being in indiana, too. cute!

glad you like TN. hopefully you’ll get to stay in this place for longer than, what? 10 minutes?

best wishes!
and i hope you don’t get robbed again.

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Awww Geez, I’m so sorry.

I’m sure many people would say, “You’re crying about INDIANA!!??” But the area you live in is lovely and I know from what you’ve said that you’ve been very happy there.

Perhaps this will be one of those times when things work back for the best, as hard as that is to believe right now, maybe moving will turn out to be a very positive thing in some way.

How long before you go?

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sending love your way, hon! i can’t even imagine moving down the street, let alone moving AGAIN.

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Oh no! I have a great friend in Tennessee and she absolutely loves it!
Good luck and hope you can get yourself back into the writing!

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Oh, Jennifer. I have no words. You just got there. I understand your lack of desire to write. I saw your Twit the other day & wondered where you were driving. I’m so sorry.

Anglophile Football Fanatic´s lastest post..This Ain’t Rocket Science

oh hon that totally stinks! I remember moving lots when hubby was in the military, but there you really expect it. 8 moves in 11 years. It totally sucked. Here’s hoping that this move will be the last for a long while. If you need anything…Holler.

Heather~Domestic Extraordinaire´s lastest post..Is Customer Service too much to ask for?

Oh gosh. This totally blows. I wish I could do something for you. Margaritas?

heather…´s lastest post..The Hollywood Baby Diet

That’s AWFUL!! I don’t even know what else to say!

Molly’s Mom´s lastest post..WW - My craftiness knows no bounds

I grew up moving a lot so I feel your pain. Where in Tenn???

Shannanb aka Mommy Bits]´s lastest post..Amazing People

That sucks. I can’t write anything else other than, that sucks.

Green & Clean Mom´s lastest post..Win a Organic Tee Shirt

I think I would totally have a meltdown! I don’t ‘do’ change. I feel for you! I hope it turns out well.
And, you’re going to hate me, but I have to say it.
GO GATORS!

dysfunctional mom´s lastest post..If this is a dream, do NOT wake me up!

I’m sorry you have to move. When I was growing up we move A LOT. There are pluses and minuses to it. Try to focus on the pluses. Big Hug!

Kendra´s lastest post..Always nice to know when you make the right choice.

What a stinker!!! I assume Tate’s company helps with the house sale, right??
We’ll miss you terribly. I’m glad you like TN, though. Shoud make it a leetle easier.

Must Be Motherhood´s lastest post..Rewind: 3.5 Weeks Ago

I’m so sorry, Jennifer. I wish there was something I could do.

Maybe there is, depending on where in TN you end up. My brother is there, and is the BEST cook ever. There are no woes that a pot of his jambalaya won’t cure.

marty´s lastest post..Music to His Ears

I’m so sorry, Jennifer. It did sound like you really had settled in and found your home. I try to tell myself in hard times that SURELY, all things work toward the greater good.

Oh girl. I’m so sorry. Tennessee is beautiful, though I’m sure that’s no consolation. We’re in the middle of trying to sell our ~~museum~~ house and will probably rent for a short time before making a bigger move.

I hate being in limbo. And I hate scrubbing my house, Silkwood style, in order for perfect strangers to come in and peruse. But you do what you have to do, I guess.

I feel for ya. You’re very much like a military wife these days!

Mama DB´s lastest post..Get ‘em

hey, i’m moving soon, too. in all that spare time of yours, can you write a blog post on how to pack up an entire house in 24 hours or less? because i need to know. thanks in advance.

wait - with a relo company, maybe you don’t have to do much manual labor?

either way…i’m thinking of you. moving sucks.

jess´s lastest post..i never said i was good at math

That sucks!! It seems like you just got here and now you’re leaving!! I’m so sorry to hear that!! I wish you and your fam all the best, though!

P.S. I did get your email, I’m not ignoring you…but, well, as you know…real life sucks!! I’ll get back to you soon!

Sarah´s lastest post..Did you know?

Oh Jennifer, that BLOWS. But are you sure it’s not MA? Because that would be awesome!

Hugs.

Trenches of Mommyhood´s lastest post..Extreme Rudeness: Trenches Edition

Holy effing crap.

But where in Tennessee? My dad lives there, so we visit. Occasionally.

Sorry. That totally sucks.

AMomTwoBoys´s lastest post..The End of an Era

I’m so sorry. It seems to me that you just changed your header to the IN one and asked us where to hang pictures on that big wall.

Well, I’m in Nashville and I’ll buy you a margarita as soon as we meet up!!

amy´s lastest post..Wordless Wednesday - The Commute

Oh honey, that’s awful. I am so sorry.
:o(

Mz. Nesbit´s lastest post..Oh Chad, how I love thee! What would I do with out you? Watch the boring ol’ news? blah!

As an Army wife, I move all the time. But ugh, you haven’t even been there long! At least Tennessee is (mostly) a beautiful state!

the dragonfly´s lastest post..Life Happens

Oh, I’m sorry you’re going to have to move again. It’s hard to have to uproot your life like that. But at least TN is a place you like. I hope you will be happy there.

Jen L.´s lastest post..Just call me Little Miss Muffett

i want to say something to make you feel better!
all of the above comments are so thoughtful…but depressingly commiserating…
so…yippee! tennessee!
i know nothing about tennessee…but i do know that you will be fine.
take a break…we don’t need you…we like you…but we don’t need you.
your family needs you right now. take care. we’ll be here.
(and thankfully…i’ve heard…they have internet access in TN too!)

jen´s lastest post..the funnies.

I’m so sorry! I can’t believe you have to pick up and move again… I hope you guys will have found a permanent place by the time Carson’s in school. I would insist upon it!

Sarah´s lastest post..Currently…

“Never once had it occurred to me that I shouldn’t root myself and branch out and allow myself that hope of home.”

I’d say you did exactly the right thing. And you should do it every time you land, no matter how long you stay. No better way to live than that, really.

Not trying to invalidate your feelings at all, of course. Moving that far is never fun, and you didn’t want to, so that sucks mega balls.

I can tell you’ll have some neighbors who are more than happy to have you here.

Wishing you Moving Mercies to the fullest. May it be as painless as it possibly can be!

(Oh, and when you get to feeling like using email again, shoot me one and let me know where you’re going to land.)

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Oh no! What a shock that must be, and I can only imagine how difficult, to leave someplace that you’ve begun to make into a home like this. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers and hope that the move goes well - and that you find yourselves in a place at least as nice as the one you’re leaving.

Deb - Mom of 3 Girls´s lastest post..Phew, my blog is back!

uuuuuuuugh! please tell me they reimburse relocation?

And you’ll just be on the other side of me …. just south instead of just north…. cuz that makes a difference?

You see my blog lapses - big changes don’t always make good blog fodder cuz it’s too freaking hard to just type the screaming in yer head.

Oh I am soooo sorry. Ick and Ugh.

I hate moving and all those details. details. details.

I have a feeling you will like Tennessee eventually. I did. We lived in Memphis for 4 years between CA and TX during my husband’s period of never ending transfers which did finally end around year 11 of our marriage…hopefully that is in your future as well.

At least your blog address doesn’t have to change…

texasholly @ June Cleaver Nirvana´s lastest post..An issue of space

yeah, yeah, sux for you.

{kidding, I soooo feel for you}

GREAT FOR ME!!!!!! Woot Woot.

SO HAPPY TO HAVE YOU HERE!

Alli ~Mrs. Fussypants´s lastest post..Fight the Frump- Baby fat & blogging butt!

Awww, I am so sorry!

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i have nothing to say that your over 130 commenters haven’t said. i just thought that last line there was perfect. i think we can all relate to the maniacal laughter with an increasing dose of choked back tears.

sorry you’re going through this.

Wow, that’s harsh. I know exactly the feelings you’re having though. There hasn’t been talk of relocating, but it is always in the forefront of my mind. My hubs’ company isn’t doing that great (they’re a global company, but just this division) and he teases me with moving talk all the time. The school district in this town is in the top 5 in the nation. I have planted my kids’ futures here. I’d be sick to my stomach if we had to move again. Cuddles to you.

Siobhan´s lastest post..Photo Hunt: View

you may want to re-think rooting for UT this season, it’s ugly
although basketball is ever improving!

paula´s lastest post..little boy is growing up

Goodness, that’s tough. I can’t even imagine! good luck!

Lori´s lastest post..A Camping We Went

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