Carson has started eating breakfast while standing on an empty tote at the kitchen counter. Sure it’s a pain in the rump to clean up, but I DON’T CARE. I’m just happy that he’s eating.
Thank you all so much for all the truly useful advice you all offered me a few weeks ago concerning Carson’s dismal eating habits. I’ve definitely cut down on milk and snacks, and have tried to be all, “Oh I don’t care what you eat! Fine with me if all you have all day is one cheerio and two sips of water! Noooo problem! It’s fine, really. Fine!”
His eating IS getting better. Baby steps, baby steps.
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I’ve come to the realization that they really won’t starve themselves so I’ve given up the fight to get them to eat. Now if I could only get my DH to do the same.
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By supermommy on 11.18.08 7:57 am | Permalink
Yup. They will eat, eventually. It won’t be as much as you would like as soon as you would like but he will eat. When our sons went through that phase, we told them they could not do anything while WE ate. They couldn’t play or do videos or watch TV. Until we were done. Their mealtime soon synced up with ours.
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By lceel on 11.18.08 8:02 am | Permalink
You can totally ignore this assvice, I just hope it doesn’t make you mad, because that’s truly not the spirit in which it was intended. It’s just that I’ve been through more stages than you have, and I think there’s a good chance you’re going to regret this one. I would highly recommend you rethink your stand. As long as you’re doing the great job of ‘not caring’ what he eats and letting it all be in his control, I would enforce the good manners rule. Sitting down at the table, etc. Not requiring those kind of things can seem like a good idea at the time, but you’re still sending the message that ‘I’ll let you do anything, as long as you eat’.
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By Mom24@4evermom on 11.18.08 8:05 am | Permalink
We do what we have to, don’t we?
I would never blog about it. But I still occasionally spoon feed my children.
We do what we have to.
Great pictures.
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By OHmommy on 11.18.08 8:12 am | Permalink
Kids are funny creatures. They know to eat when they are hungry…how did I lose that ability?
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By mapsgirl on 11.18.08 8:16 am | Permalink
It’s just a stage….I’m like you, do whatever it takes. He’s now appreciating the ketchup smiley faces and the dinosaur sandwiches (found an awesome sandwich cutter at Walmart for $1).
Half the time his lunch sits on the table all day and he’ll snack on it all afternoon (so will the fruit flies).
By Beth on 11.18.08 8:32 am | Permalink
I just love your camera. I realize that is so not the point of this post, but I do just love the clarity. *sigh & green with envy*
Glad he’s eating.
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By Heidi on 11.18.08 8:39 am | Permalink
@Mom24, I don’t think it’s bad manners to stand in the kitchen to eat. In our last house we had a bar that he’d like to sit at to eat. In this rental, we don’t have that, so I improvised with the tote so that he could “eat up at the bar.”
I appreciate your advice, but I disagree that this is bad manners. I also don’t think that I’m taking the stand that “I’ll let you do anything as long as you eat.”
By Jennifer on 11.18.08 8:42 am | Permalink
Hope the eating gets better soon. My philosphy is really do whatever works for you!
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By wright on 11.18.08 8:43 am | Permalink
I dread mealtimes soooo much! When you last wrote about this…I had one toddler that ate sporadically and one that ate everything on her plate. Now both of them are on a hunger strike!
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By Connie @ Young and Relentless on 11.18.08 8:51 am | Permalink
Oh, how the pendulum swings. I’m now struggling to get my kids to STOP eating. I had to outlaw special treats like Cheetos, Ritz Bits, etc because they simply could not control themselves and would eat the whole box the first two days after I bought them.
I now try to keep only “healthy” snacks around so that when they sneak out at 6am to get food (oh yes they do), they’re at least sneaking healthy food.
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By all things BD on 11.18.08 8:53 am | Permalink
I write this as my child is eating a banana and toast (in a baggie) with juice while sitting in her bed. It’s how she eats breakfast every morning. How do I get her to eat the rest of her meals? By putting the food in a zip lock bag. I’m not sure why it works it just does! As for manners when she actually sits at the table to eat amongst “real people” well they’re just fine!
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By Momma Mac on 11.18.08 9:06 am | Permalink
My kids love to make pizza. They BAM! it like Emeril.
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By Ashlie- Mommycosm on 11.18.08 9:11 am | Permalink
I swear that if I so much as make eye contact when Alexis is trying something new or eating something “questionable,” she will stop instantly. It’s all about not having a Care Face, even when you have a kid who will eat most anything.
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By Burgh Baby on 11.18.08 9:16 am | Permalink
if my three year old would eat while suspended from the rafters by the toenails, and even if she washed everything down with a bottle of syrup i would let her if it meant more than 5 bites a day. so i feel your pain.
my baby on the other hand would eat all day if he could. especially my boobs could produce floor cheerios. that would be heaven!
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By britt on 11.18.08 9:23 am | Permalink
Oooh yum! *G*
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By Sarah on 11.18.08 9:24 am | Permalink
Whatever works to get him to eat is all that matters. Dirty totes aside.
I’m on a giveaway dry spell..I haven’t won anything in a good 9 months, maybe longer. Crossing my fingers on this one.
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By Jean@workingmomma247 on 11.18.08 9:30 am | Permalink
I think it’s great that you’re letting him eat at the counter! I let my son eat in the living room and just leave his plate on the coffee table throughout the day. He grazes all day long, but he eats when he’s hungry and I don’t have to yell “hurry up and eat” or whatever. It’s very freeing.
Thanks for the chance to win!
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By cgogis on 11.18.08 9:45 am | Permalink
Ha! Good one. I will keep that one in mind. I am all for creativity in parenting.
You can still have wonderful, mannerly children who know how to behave in a restaurant or in someone else’s house while compromising with them at home and exploring their quirks.
In fact, we’ll see if your kid’s quirk is my kid’s quirk and pull out the storage bucket for lunch today…
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By Madness and Sense on 11.18.08 9:55 am | Permalink
way to think outside the box, mama!
i swear … having children causes us to jump in and out of the box constantly doesn’t it?
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By jen on 11.18.08 10:08 am | Permalink
Way to improvise!
Mom24: the wise say to pick your battles. I know Jennifer isn’t letting Carson have his way in all things, but to not allow any flexibility as a parent in a minor thing such as this? I am 100% positive Carson won’t grow up with horrible manners because of how Jennifer handled a very typical toddler eating issue.
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By Heather, Queen of Shake Shake on 11.18.08 10:14 am | Permalink
very cool site my son has recently become fascinated with cooking & helping in the kitchen this will help with some Christmas ideas!
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By paula on 11.18.08 10:16 am | Permalink
Picky eaters are so rough! ::fingers crossed to win for my picky eater::
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By iMommy on 11.18.08 10:26 am | Permalink
Ooh, good trick! And probably easier to clean up than milk dripped on carpet! (I just finished rubbing Resolve on juice stains. ICK!)
Fingers crossed! I love making pizza!
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By Jen L. on 11.18.08 10:41 am | Permalink
Hey I love Sassafras.

And am glad Carson is stepping up to the proverbial plate.
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By Sus @ Wiggle Rooms on 11.18.08 10:56 am | Permalink
@Mom24@4evermom My husband will sometimes spoon feed our 4 and 2 year old! It doesn’t work when I do it, but somehow they will open up their mouths like little birds for daddy.
FWIW, my picky eater seems to be slowly growing out of it at age 6. He’s willing to at least try new things and his texture issues are less severe. Hang in there!
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By Tracy on 11.18.08 11:10 am | Permalink
My boy loves to watch all the shows on Food Network - and loves to help me cook. This would be perfect for him.
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By catnip on 11.18.08 11:19 am | Permalink
Thanks, Love this for a Christmas idea!!
By Lynn on 11.18.08 11:35 am | Permalink
I was wondering what those photos were about in your photostream the other day.
I say if you can get him to eat and he is happy doing it then woohoo!!
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By Heather~Domestic Extraordinaire on 11.18.08 11:42 am | Permalink
Crossing them fingers!
Glad to hear the eating is getting better.
By Kgirl on 11.18.08 11:52 am | Permalink
Just took our 3yr old twins to the doc and they is 5 pounds difference between them. Doc’s not too concerned about the picky eater. He’ll eat when he’s hungry, we’re told. OK!
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By kj @ Where my boys at? on 11.18.08 12:06 pm | Permalink
Dinnertime is my 3 year old’s worst nightmare. We’re still figuring out ways to get her to eat, while not letting her have the control of throwing tantrums and throwing food. It drives me nuts.
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By Jill on 11.18.08 12:07 pm | Permalink
Good for you… stick with the baby steps. He’ll get there!
By Hydes Like Us on 11.18.08 12:10 pm | Permalink
awesome! I’m glad he’s eating. We’ve also had to cut down on the snacks and milk in the afternoons. My kids actually ate salmon last night. I may just keel over from the shock.
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By Mama DB on 11.18.08 12:16 pm | Permalink
Alyssa has her good days and bad days. Last night I made a chicken casserole and made some green beans as well. She ate nothing but green beans and kept asking for more. If I made green beans tonight though, she would look at me like I had lost my mind.
By Rachel on 11.18.08 12:20 pm | Permalink
We definitely do what we have to! I used to feed the twins off my plate when I ate dinner after they were finished with theirs - I found they would eat whatever I was eating, even if they flat out refused it minutes ago on their own plate. It was aggravating, but once I stopped feeding them from my plate they seemed to eat better from their own. But I’m of the firm opinion there really is no “win” here when it comes to toddlers and eating . . empty tote in the kitchen here we come
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By BlueBella on 11.18.08 12:31 pm | Permalink
Huh. May have to try that for dinner!
My kids would love the prize! Pizza’s the one thing I know they’ll always eat!
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By Colleen - Mommy Always Wins on 11.18.08 12:35 pm | Permalink
fingers crossed ….
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By feener on 11.18.08 12:37 pm | Permalink
HAHA Well at least he wasn’t sitting IN the tub.
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By Miss on 11.18.08 1:06 pm | Permalink
ooh how cute! pick me, pick me!
By Steph on 11.18.08 1:17 pm | Permalink
I guess kids will eat when they’re hungry!
By Leah on 11.18.08 1:26 pm | Permalink
Glad to hear he’s eating better. It’s so hard to watch them be that picky and hear them refuse over and over again. I think CJ has eaten PB&J and Hot Dogs almost every meal this week. Zoiks.
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By MadWomanMeg on 11.18.08 1:32 pm | Permalink
At least he’s eating in the kitchen not on the carpet! My son loves to help me make homemade pizza crust so this set would be perfect for him.
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By Jennie on 11.18.08 2:15 pm | Permalink
I agree with the pick your battles. TO me, other things are way more important to fight with them about, than where you eat your breakfast.
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By Teri on 11.18.08 2:27 pm | Permalink
Eating is way more about us, than about them. Which is easy to say, and hard to live by, believe me, I know!
I have one great eater, and one not-so-great, but they both LOVE pizza, and they love when we do make your own on English Muffins. Doing it for REAL would be even cooler!
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By ragtopday on 11.18.08 2:39 pm | Permalink
I am not looking forward to this part of toddlerhood again!
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By tuesday on 11.18.08 2:58 pm | Permalink
I’m posting and crossing
By carma on 11.18.08 3:13 pm | Permalink
Notice: the comment luv is still out to get me. effer.
You want today’s giveaway - I just know you do.
And, if they eat? Who cares about the mess?
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By Anglophile Football Fanatic on 11.18.08 3:34 pm | Permalink
At least he’s eating! I love when moms dont go by the book! Makes me feel better!!
By kelly on 11.18.08 3:39 pm | Permalink
I’ll take it!
By Maggie on 11.18.08 3:52 pm | Permalink
Oooh, I’d love to win that. Pizza is one of the things MY picky kid will actually eat.
By Carmen on 11.18.08 3:55 pm | Permalink
I can soo relate to the eating… and I, too, try to act like it doesn’t bother me when she refuses to eat. But we all know the truth….
By robin forman on 11.18.08 4:21 pm | Permalink
Pick me! I have no idea what to get my niece for Christmas.
By Megan on 11.18.08 4:28 pm | Permalink
My ped told me that kids who are healthy are incapable of starving themselves- they will eventually eat…so hard, though, I know…
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By Toni on 11.18.08 4:33 pm | Permalink
Im too tired to even form a witty snarky comment about my toddlers eating habits.
please to just INSERT ONE HERE for me…
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By MizFit on 11.18.08 4:47 pm | Permalink
At times like these you got to do what you’ve got to do!! Trust me. I know.
I’ve got my fingers and toes crossed!!
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By abunslife on 11.18.08 5:24 pm | Permalink
I have a one year old and am NOT looking forward to the picky eating stage. Ugh!
By Deanna on 11.18.08 5:32 pm | Permalink
I wish I had enforced the no snacks or fluid rules when Cab was young and made him eat what was on the table.
He always had special meals and lots of snacks because I was worried about his weight.
He is 18yo and still has a 10 items repertoire - none which are fruits or vegetables. *Sigh*
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By Binks on 11.18.08 5:59 pm | Permalink
“Whatever it takes.” That’s my motto when it comes to kids eating. Or doing anything, I guess. (I know, I know. I’m pitiful.)
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By patois on 11.18.08 7:58 pm | Permalink
fingers crossed although my bug won’t be making pizza for at least a few months!
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By dig this chick on 11.18.08 8:20 pm | Permalink
I have a 2yr old at home (2nd kid) when he was younger he too took his meals at the kitchen sink..but it was even more messy then your child’s eating habit as he had to have the kitchen tap turned on so that he could enjoy ” washing the dishes” while eating.
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By Dominique on 11.18.08 8:38 pm | Permalink
Honestly, one of the hardest things as a parent, at least for me, is to accept that they will eat when they are hungry and 1/2 a thing of yogurt really, miraculously can get them through the day.
Congrats on finding a way to cope with it.
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By Shamalam on 11.18.08 9:49 pm | Permalink
I know exactly what you are talking about. My 2 year old will only eat while watching Mamma Mirabel on PBS in the morning. Hopefully they will grow out of it.
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By rob on 11.18.08 9:56 pm | Permalink
You’re a funny dude, Carson
Hey, however he wants to eat…haha.
I think all kids pretty much go through the picky/not eating phase-you’re handling it well, and I bet you ‘acting’ like you don’t care what he does/doesn’t eat is helping. He probably realizes it isn’t such a big deal and is going to grow out of it before you even blink an eye.
Yay for empty cartons to eat on at sinks!
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By flickrlovr on 11.18.08 10:50 pm | Permalink
I was slow to realize that my 3.5 year old is much more likely to try something she has helped make. It worked tonight.
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By nonlineargirl on 11.18.08 11:00 pm | Permalink
my kids have started eating their breakfast out of those silicone re-usable cupcake liners. they make cute little bowls and are various colors….somehow this is inspiring.
who knows what makes them tick, right?
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By phyllis on 11.18.08 11:25 pm | Permalink
My kid is too young to be a budding chef at the moment, but I still hope I win.
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By Erica on 11.18.08 11:59 pm | Permalink
kids… they will eat only when they want… but pancakes will eat every time i make
By Sarah on 11.19.08 4:53 am | Permalink
glad to see he’s eating, we’re doing better over here too!
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By DesignHER Momma on 11.19.08 9:15 am | Permalink
Maybe my toddler would actually eat something besides french toast… Maybe…
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By Erin on 11.19.08 9:16 am | Permalink
Baby steps is where it’s at. My 18 month old has been nursing non stop…he doesn’t feel like eating anything but goldfish crackers. Crazy!
The pizza kit looks cool!
By johanna on 11.19.08 9:23 am | Permalink
My first was so picky, I thought he would starve. But my second is so much better (plus I stress about it less, too).
My daughter would love the pizza kit - she loves to help cook.
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By Gina on 11.19.08 10:30 am | Permalink
Eating on a tote is TOO FUNNY! Kids are bizarre. Who would ever guess that a tote would encourage eating. Ha!
J still has serious eating “issues,” but pizza (albeit plain/cheese) is one of her favorite things, so a pizza making kit would ROCK!!
Fingers crossed….
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By PsychMamma on 11.19.08 12:34 pm | Permalink
I’ve begun letting my two year old eat while sitting in the middle of the train table, surrounded by trains. The Jewish mother in me just can’t send him to bed hungry. I just can’t!
By Scary Mommy on 11.19.08 10:06 pm | Permalink