Comments on: Out of focus

By: maggie, dammit

maggie, dammit — Wed, 21 Jan 2009 15:36:59 +0000

I was just trying to explain this very thing to my husband two nights ago, only I didn’t do it very well. I’m going to send him this.

By: Susan

Susan — Wed, 21 Jan 2009 15:08:47 +0000

What a well written, honest and thoughtful reminder. Thank you. Susan´s lastest post..I am not that important

By: Gnightgirl

Gnightgirl — Wed, 21 Jan 2009 04:16:54 +0000

Outstanding post. I've been in a relationship for 2 years now; kids are grown, we take care of our parents, work on remodeling a 100-year old home in the country, and work our own jobs, in the midst of taking care of our friends and loved ones. We're at a stage where I feel a bit panicky at the "routine," and at the same time, I look forward to a point in our relationship where we can bank on the fact that we love each other, and will be there for one another, even when we forget to say it. It's nice to stay on top of these things, but there's also something incredibly romantic about this post. Gnightgirl´s lastest post..January 20, 2009

By: Bec

Bec — Tue, 20 Jan 2009 21:36:08 +0000

Yes! Exactly this. Bec´s lastest post..Riddle me this

By: VDog

VDog — Tue, 20 Jan 2009 00:55:12 +0000

Bollocks to the haters! (or something like that, heh)

We are I-Love-You-aholics in our house. Prolly b/c I never heard it from my dad. My husband did not grow up hearing it and their family is … well, they’re French, so they just kiss on the cheeks, lol.

The year we got married we took a secular Marriage Preparation course and it was AMAZING. They taught us tools for a successful marriage, and one was Words of Love. Saying you love each other is wonderful for the marriage.

Another thing is to have 5 positive interactions to every 1 negative interaction. Saying I love you all the time helps up our number of positive interactions.

AND even though we are I love you crazy, we STILL have to work hard at our marriage.

Good luck with yours. We all need it!

VDog´s lastest post..Cheddar Bunnies!

By: Janet

Janet — Mon, 19 Jan 2009 19:43:14 +0000

Marriage is hard work. Much harder than I imagined it would ever be. You know what else? Some people say, 'I love you' automatically, rotely, without putting any actions behind it. Sure, I like to hear the words from my husband. But there are little gestures he makes, like sending me up for a bath with a glass of wine while he deals with the kids; bringing me a coffee; coming home with unsolicited chocolate(!). For me, these things mean more than the words. Janet´s lastest post..Reasons to Hate Winter: #157

By: Binks

Binks — Mon, 19 Jan 2009 16:27:52 +0000

Great post! Marriage DOES mean hard work. And, oh how I miss those days when I could smother my son in I love you & hugs. Teenage years, not so much. Binks´s lastest post..Interview ME

By: Dory

Dory — Mon, 19 Jan 2009 15:31:53 +0000

What I find really interesting is that my life is the opposite. I have to remind myself to tell the boogerheads I love them after they've been terrors all day. With my husband, sometimes I don't even formulate it in my brain before it pops out. I don't think that this means that you have a problem in your marriage or that I'm a bad mom. I think it just means that it is just a little more comfortable for me to be a wife and you to be a mommy. I am way more confident as a wife than a mom. I'm curious as to how other wife/moms feel. I smell blog fodder! Dory´s lastest post..Weekly Winners for 01/11/2009 - 01/17/2009

By: Colleen - Mommy Always Wins

Colleen - Mommy Always Wins — Mon, 19 Jan 2009 05:11:21 +0000

I hear ya, sister! Its so easy to *not* do the little things, but ohsoimportant! Colleen - Mommy Always Wins´s lastest post..Weekly Winners - January 11 - 17, 2009

By: Momo Fali

Momo Fali — Mon, 19 Jan 2009 03:17:57 +0000

My husband and I say this every day, but sometimes it's just out of habit. We love each other, we would be miserable without each other, but there are days it's hard to keep my eyes open long enough to spend a few minutes with him after he gets home from work. Momo Fali´s lastest post..The Eyes Have It