With my boys I have always known something was up, (but she seems to be for lack of a better word)”normal”. I wonder if there isn’t something that can be done to “practice” these behavior skills, but so far I haven’t found anything that works. What I CAN say, is that I fully agree with not canceling preschool. As I was saying earlier. I judge success by whether or not my children complete the task, class etc. If I don’t have to remove them we met our goal. Also I might point out that 2 of the 4 preschools my oldest attended were Montessori schools. One worked and one asked us to leave after 1 month. Not only are not all Montessori schools made the same(even within their two defined formats) but this type of school isn’t for every child, despite what they may tell you.

When I re-read it, it came off sounding like advice for you, which it, uh, was not.

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A tougher-type temperament in a kid (or a temperament that was too different or too like the parents’) has been MANY TIMES the reason for a referral to my office, when no *diagnosable* condition existed.

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I like your comment to suggestion and I’m right there with you!

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I appreciate the effort you put into sending me this link and I hope that possibly this link could help others.

I reviewed the checklist and found that only 4 things apply to my son. As I stated in an earlier comment, I don’t believe that my son’s need for control is necessarily something that requires a diagnosis of some sort.

And while I’m on my tangent, I have to wonder if kids can’t just be “difficult” anymore w/o someone immediately assuming they are disordered? I know that as an SLP, some teachers wanted kids diagnosed so they could get them out of their class, some parents want some sort of diagnosis to explain why their child struggles.

Certainly there are children should have some sort of diagnosis, I just don’t think that every hiccup along the way should be cause for concern. If Carson is still completely out of whack in a year, I’ll be more willing to look into Sensory Integration or other behavior problems. For now, I’m just going to go w/the old standby that my kid’s a stinker and needs lots of extra positive reinforcement.

1) When people give you homilies like “he’ll get used to it,” memorize them and repeat them when those or other people later complain to you about your son. Then it’s harder for them to argue.

2) He needs to learn that his behavior affects people and events; i.e. if he drives you nuts, that makes you want to fob him off on other people for a break, whereas if he were less of a pain you’d have less need for a break.

3) Basic personality traits rarely change. If he consistently dislikes being around other people, that’s probably going to stick.

4) Some behaviors are really environmental, but the variables can be really obscure. I was, hm, 16 or 17 the first time I encountered a crowd that I liked. If you can pin down what things your son dislikes about other people or activities, you may be able to maneuver around them somewhat, or find ways for him to protect himself from things that make him uncomfortable.

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