Some of you are going to be in shock when you read this. Others of you may question whether or not you feel like we can continue being friends.
I hope this doesn’t change things between us.
I do not really care for chocolate or sweets. I KNOW! Shocking! It’s like I just told you that I actually have a pen!s.
I can say with 100% certainty that I despise plain milk chocolate, but when forced (like when it’s sitting in front of me and my husband bought it for me as a “gift” and looks at me with wide, expectant eyes), I will eat it.
Chocolate with some sort of nut accompaniment is preferred, though it’s still not as delicious to me as a big plate of nachos with melting cheese and jalapenos. I do enjoy candies and pies and cakes and ice creams occasionally, but if given a choice, I’d prefer prime rib and a baked potato with butter and sour cream. I actually have an entire list of Chocolate and Sweets Consumption and the Enjoyment Thereof Bylaws that can be obtained for a nominal fee of $27 plus $9.95 shipping and handling, in the event you are curious as to my specific preferences and whims. (Bylaw #314b: I adore all things gummy, when the tide is out on the third Tuesday of every other month during leap years.)
I’m telling you all of this because I’m a superior wife and blogger that feels as if you need to know the aforementioned information before making a final judgment regarding an argument I’m having with my husband.
Every so often, or rather, too often, Tate comes home with a pint of Ben & Jerry’s for each of us. He prefers the chocolately ones, I like Cookies & Cream or Raspberry Cobbler. In the past, I’ve shamefully eaten every last bite of my pint of ice cream. Since I’ve been trying to be wiser about my eating habits and become a better friend to my thighs, I’ve tried to eat only 1/4 to a 1/3 of the pint, while Tate continues to snarf down all of his. I put the remainder of my ice cream in the freezer to save for another night.
Imagine my shock and horror when a few days later I discover the scent of MY ICE CREAM on Tate’s breath and find the tell tale ice cream soiled spoon on the counter. Alright, that may be hard to imagine since I just basically told you that I’m just not that into sweets, BUT!! It was MY ice cream that I WAS going to eat eventually. AND!! Having saved ice cream in the fridge meant that Tate wouldn’t have buy MORE when he inevitably went out to get Ben and Jerry’s. Also, why can’t Tate figure out how to open the dishwasher and place dirty dishes INSIDE???
Tate rolled his eyes and sighed his exasperated sigh when I yelled at him for eating MY ice cream. He explained that once the ice cream pint goes back into the freezer uneaten, it becomes fair game and that he has every right to pick up the ice cream off waivers.
“It’s not like you even really like it that much,” he retorted, getting in the last word. He then stole the remote control from my hands and forced me to watch American Rifleman, while I sat in stunned silence, mourning the loss of my ice cream. (I just made up the events in the last sentence.)
I feel that once I’ve started a pint of ice cream, particularly when he originally had his very own pint, that the ice cream remains mine for my personal consumption whenever I feel like eating it. There is no rule stating that I MUST finish the whole pint of ice cream in one sitting. I also feel that I should not have to live in fear in my own HOME that my saved ice cream will be robbed, never to be seen again…(well, you know what I mean.)
So. If you were able to work past the fact that I’m not a superfan of chocolate and sweets and read this, what do you think? Does Tate have the right to eat my ice cream off waivers because “It’s not like [I] even really like it that much?” (Am refraining from capitalizing the word “MY” in the previous sentence and not using the word “steal” in the place of “eat” because I want to be a RESPONSIBLE and FAIR blogger and not sway your decision in any way.)
Tell that dude to lay off your ice cream! Seriously.
Tell him just to buy himself 2 pints next time and to keep his mangy paws off your pint!
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I have never eaten an entire pint of ice cream myself in one sitting. I believe your hubby is in the wrong. The ice cream was given to you. When placed back in the freezer, it did not become fair game. If he’d wanted it, he should have asked you if you would mind if he ate it. If you really didn’t mind, he’d have no problem obtaining permission. But since he didn’t ask, in the back of his mind, he knew you did want it.
He owes you a pint of ice cream. And maybe some flowers as an apology.
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The only way I can even answer is if I equate it to chocolate. Sorry.
Ahem. My husband does not have to eat all chocolate in sight immediately upon opening it. I do. If he doesn’t eat his chocolate bar, he best hide it or I will finish it.
Ergo, if you are not going to immediately eat all of “your” ice cream, you best hide it because, fine missy, it becomes public property open to be consumed by any adult member of the household.
(But, seriously, couldn’t he at least put the spoon in the dishwasher?)
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It’s YOURS!! There are no waivers in snack foods specifically purchased for one person! He bought it for you, it remains yours unless you release said snack to him!
My husband is totally a carb snacker, doesn’t like sweets really at all, which is generally good for me!
You’re right. It’s yours. You each get a pint and he has no say as to whether or not you eat it in one sitting or 10. Send him back out.
.-= LZ @ My Messy Paradise´s last blog ..Something else that shouldn’t be enjoyable. But, it is. =-.
Stealing ice cream is grounds for instant and severe punishment in my house. Which is why I eat right out of the pint and cough while doing so. I might even sneeze in it to make my point very clear.
Hands off.
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You’re in the right here
HE should have at least asked if he could have some, geeze! If not he should have left it alone!
.-= Cortney @ evanhaslanded´s last blog ..The Obsession =-.
I think we must be twins separated at birth on the steak and potato vs. chocolate thing.
But dude. Don’t EVER come between me and my ice cream. For serious.
He totally broke the rules.
.-= Jessica´s last blog ..Pure Awesomeness =-.
Ha ha ha! The ice cream is technically yours. That said I am still LMAO because this happens in the reverse in our house all the time. Hee hee!
I’m going to have to side with him because otherwise I’d have to stop eating MY husband’s ice cream, chocolate, and cookies that he doesn’t immediately consume. I mean, I’m here ALL DAY. It’s STARING ME IN THE FACE. So I’ve let him know that I’m only human, and have only so much willpower. If he wants that chocolate bar, he’d best finish it now or hide it well.
I’m with you! Similar horrific events have happened in my very own home. I say that I ‘must’ have a safe place for my treats, otherwise they get scarfed down by everyone else and then i’m just pissed. if he bought it for you, its yours to do with as you wish. end of story.
Because of the disclosure that you aren’t that into ice cream, I must side with your husband. Once it is put back into the freezer it becomes fair game. Now if you were like me and you loved ice cream above all else (expect perhaps your children) then it would forever and always be YOUR ice cream. But he should always put the evidence, I mean spoon, in the dishwasher.
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I’m too hung up on the fact that Ben and Jerry’s makes a Raspberry Cobbler ice cream? ARE YOU KIDDING ME? Where does on find that delicious sounding ice cream? The grocery store? Or do I need an actual Ben and Jerry’s store? Oh, God. I’m totally going to have to make a late night ice cream run tonight. And I don’t even LIKE ice cream.
Chocolate, however, is my true love. As are nachos.
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I totally and completely agree with you.
However, it sounds like Tate is only buying you a pint because he wants a pint of his own. It doesn’t really sound like he’s doing it to be nice, because he realizes you don’t really like sweets, yet he keeps doing it anyway. (Don’t get me wrong; it’s really nice of him to get some for you, but it sounds like his motivation for doing so may be off.) If this is the case, I think you’re going to have a really hard time convincing him to leave your leftovers alone.
That being said, I really commend you for not finishing the entire pint!
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Karly, I actually goofed. It’s not Raspberry Cobbler ice cream, it BETTER. It’s Raspberry PEACH Cobbler ice cream. It’s one of their Limited Batch offerings. I’m pretty sure Tate found them at the grocery store or Wal-mart.
Good luck, it’s pretty damn good. And that’s saying a lot coming from me.
Jennifer,
You have just solidified that you are my shorter, cuter other half.
Because.. yes. Dark chocolate only (when I eat it) preferable with nuts or something else.
I would much prefer nachos dripping in jalapenos, beans, salsa and cheese to a slice of cake.
Ice cream is okay but, a steak and potato.. or fried onions.. much better
We must go eat together at BlissDom this year
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I am sort of with you – sweets are not my downfall. Ice cream can sit in my freezer for months.
But no, there is no automatic rule that ice cream put back becomes fair game. He should have asked before snaking it.
.-= donna´s last blog ..Want Me to Make You a Mix Tape? =-.
donna, For the record, had he asked? I would have told him “no” because I’m kind of an asshole.
That’s like being an Indian giver… he bought it for you, therefor it is yours to do with as you like, save for a year even! (not that that would ever happen, just for examples sake…
Our family used to get ben and jerry’s pints every couple of weeks growing up. My brother would always scarf his pint and then want to eat other peoples ice cream. My parents laid down the law and said you get one pint, however long it takes to eat it, that’s it, that’s all you get until the next trip to ben and jerry’s. So in my families opinion he commited a pretty big offense eating your ice cream.
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You are right he is wrong.
.-= Heather´s last blog ..Another Injury =-.
Maybe he was just helping you to eat healthier
I struggle with this too! I have a wicked sweet tooth but don’t like chocolate cake, chocolate ice cream or most ice cream for that point. I love candy though including milk chocolate candy. I often eat ice cream because my family does or because someone offers it to me at a party but I really try to just pass. If I am eating empty calories I would much rather being using them on something I love such as pumpkin cheesecake.
I do hate it when my husband eats something I think is “mine.”
The ice cream, once purchased for you, is yours for all perpetuity. (I think I’m using that word right.) I’m with you 100% on this one even though it pains me because anyone who doesn’t like chocolate clearly has something wrong with them.
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I’d rather just have the nachos, thanks. Ice cream can sit in our freezer for weeks and I will not eat it. Granted, my husband and children will eat it before those weeks are up, but I usually won’t touch it with a ten foot pole. Sorry I’m no help, but YES the spoon should have been put in the dishwasher. I have THAT problem here, too.
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Um, you “double dipped” it’s your pint of ice cream. If he wants more then he should buy two for himself and one for you. That’s what my husband does.
Although he will then finish off my ice cream too because the freezer is full of partially eaten “Michelle” ice creams.
I have the same issue with my husband and the dirty dishes, why they cannot go into the dishwasher instead of inches above on the counter is beyond me! However, to argue over ice cream says to me there might be something deeper there to argue about? Hope all turns out ok
.-= Traci´s last blog ..Heene High Jinks =-.
I agree with you.
My husband agrees with your husband.
Someone is sleeping on the couch tonight.
It isn’t me!
I love you, but I am disagreeing with you on this one. Whatever is in the fridge, pantry and freezer is fair game. I say this with a lot of experience. And there has been a few times in the past that I have partaken of his forbidden fruit. So, I can’t rightfuly call anything MINE if what’s his was OURS at any one point in time.
KEEP BELIEVING
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I don’t really like chocolate either. I despise chocolate milk and chocolate ice cream in particular. I rarely say it out loud for fear of being instantly committed.
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Oh, and he was totally in the wrong. You rule supreme.
.-= Shelly´s last blog ..An Astute Observation For One So Young =-.
I am so with you on the chocolate and sweets thing. Give me some nice cheese or steak, savoury wins every time.
On the ice cream – if he bought it for you as a gift, it was yours – not up for grabs at all.
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I don’t care for chocolate either. You’ve become sexier in my eyes.
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Well the next time he comes home with a pint of ice cream, make it very clear, ARE YOU GIVING THIS TO ME? IS IT MINE? BECAUSE, YOU KNOW, I DON’T LOSE OWNERSHIP OF IT ONCE I’M NOT GRIPPING IT WITH MY HANDS ANYMORE MISTER.
Dude, that would drive me nuts.
So, if I were you, I’d probably take the pint of ice cream and disguise it in an empty tofu burger box, or something equally disgusting.
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haha. I wrote almost the identical post for Aiming Low about drinking. I don’t really like to drink…so, you know, we can still totally be friends!
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You don’t like chocolate? (gasp!) OK, I’ve got 2 teen boys and 1 teen girl. If there is anything edible in the house, it disappears instantly. Especially treats of any kind. Once in awhile someone will put a sticky note on a food item in the fridge that says, “Mine – don’t touch!” Usually, when that happens, everyone leaves it alone.
Hmm – is my house kind of strange?
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Everyone has said what I would have about the ice cream but I HAVE to tell you, as a fan of all things gummy, about my very most favoritest candy EVER.
Kookaburra red Australian licorice.
So. effing. divine.
It MUST be the Kookaburra kind and you will die at the chewy yum. SO different from American licorice.
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I want to be on your side, I do but …the dissing of sweets. Wow. I THOUGHT WE WERE FRIENDS JENNIFER!! I THOUGHT WE WERE FRIENDS!11!!!
That said, I have no expectation of anything put back in the fridge or freezer being seen again. But that is because I live with a houseful of scavengers with hollow legs.
Totally beside the point though, to keep myself from eating a pint at a time, I buy the little 4oz containers of Ben & Jerrys for $1 at Wal-Mart. Nothing to worry about putting back in the freezer AND my thighs are happier. Also: CHEAPER.
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Isn’t it annoying when you put something away and go back to it, say a week or four later and it’s gone!!!
We do the ice-cream thing, but we buy different flavors, and I like his, but he doesn’t really like mine.
(I may occasionally ‘enjoy’ some of his.)
But, if I have a packet of corn chips left in the cupboard from having nachos for a meal and go to get them a couple of days later because we are having a ‘scrappy’ meal, they won’t be there. The other three in the house will have had them for snacks when I wasn’t home.
They have stopped taking my chocolate…I started buying dark choc or with nuts.
You can’t win this argument with your husband, but you CAN hide your ice cream in an opaque tupperware type container in the freezer. In my experience men never look in those.
Good luck!
.-= badness jones´s last blog ..Ugh. =-.
That was YOUR ice cream! Here is why it was your ice cream. It was a pint – there was NO bowl involved. You ate directly from the carton. He gave it to YOU and he ate his. If it had been a container of ice cream, with a bowl involved and you both ate a portion out of the same container that would be common property ice cream! It’s fair game! But NO bowl + you each had your own pint = YOUR ICE CREAM!!!!
You know, I looked past the entire Tennessee football fan blemish in your personality and loved you anyway.
But the not liking sweets? Mercy, that’s a personality flaw I don’t know I can tolerate!
I don’t want to take Tate’s side because I’m anti-man like that, but, I can’t help my own sweet tooth, and everything sweet is fair game, unless it’s bolted down.
.-= Heather, Queen of Shake Shake´s last blog ..Confession Time. Please Prepare Yourself for Anti-Climatic Drama =-.
I just had this argument last night with my husband. Except it is cookies. He likes Chips Ahoy, and I like Soft Batch and Double Stuffed Oreos. After I adamently told him to keep his paws off of my Soft Batch, he wrote my name on them. “How sweet”, I thought. Until I saw the Oreos. He wrote, “Matt’s cookies only, not Gail’s cookies.” (Whatever. I can hide them in the pan cabinet and he’ll never know)…but still, it’s the premise. You have your own damn cookies, it’s not my fault that I have learned how to control my cravings and not eat an ENTIRE BAG OF COOKIES in one sitting.
So no…you are not unreasonable. I mean, what if you want to take 3 bites just to get rid of the craving? And it is all gone? Tell him he loses on this one:)
If he bought himself one and one for you, it’s yours. Consider it a gift. He does not have any right to it.
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I really need to know the time frame involved to make a logical decision. After all, after 96 hours, I would have to call that ice cream fair game.
You are totally in the right. It was yours to be savored when at the moment of your choice. It’s like you are being punished for exercising portion control and not craving sweets all the time.
I wanted to add that I am also not a fan of plain chocolate. I don’t like m and m’s. I don’t like chocolate ice cream. I don’t like chocolate swirls in my vanilla ice cream. You could not pay me to eat a plain Hershey bar. Well, you probably could, but you see what I’m saying, right?
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cbrks12, I say that there should be no time limit. I may have wanted to eat that ice cream in a day, a week, a month, or even a YEAR!
I think it is even MORE totally yours since you aren’t much of a sweets fan, and there are just a few things you’ll have…so how dare he eat YOUR ice cream!
My husband does it with my leftover Chinese food…fatty will eat all of his, I’ll save 1/2 for later and apparently he sees this as fair game…NOT cool! ;o)
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This is what should happen.
You: Hey, I wanted that!
Him: You did? I’m sorry. Do you want me to go buy you another?
The end. Tell him I said so.
.-= Misty´s last blog ..Recap =-.
I totally agree with you! I don’t really prefer sweets but every now and then I’ll want something and if you think it’s in the freezer and it’s not it just ruins your whole day. Which would then ruin his day. Because if you’re not happy, there’s no way he’s going to be happy. Right? The rasberry peach cobbler ice cream is so good though!!