In May 2008 I started a weekly series I lovingly referred to as the Blog Tip Sharing Project. At the time, I was pretty much in love with all things blogging and wanted to share some of the things I’d learned along the way. Also at that time, I really felt like I had a pretty good handle on the blogosphere and where I fit into the mix.
It’s now a year and a half later and I’m not as enamored with all things blogging and I don’t really feel like I have any idea where I fit exactly in the blogosphere, except that I do own a miniscule slice and adore those who come visit me. So very much has changed since I first wrote the series, that when I look back and re-read them, they are almost comical.
Nearly every week those tips are linked to or I get an email from someone asking about something they’d read in the series. This is why I’m going to be editing and re-publishing them. I know people have found them to be helpful, but they also contain things that are no longer true. I feel bad when I check my stats and see that someone has spent an hour reading outdated blog tips.
I’m going to continue to call the series Blog Tip Sharing Project, but instead of just ME sharing, I’m really hoping that YOU will help me. The whole idea is “SHARING,” me with you, and you with me. This series will only be published on Saturdays, though I’m not making any promises that it will be EVERY Saturday.
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Blog Tip Sharing Project Redux: Writing Tips
Disclaimer: In NO WAY do I feel qualified to give any sort of advice when it comes to writing improvement. My grammar is sketchy and my vocabulary is limited to words like “totally” and “awesome.”
Welcome back to class everyone! Did you all find a comfortable chair? You there…in the back? I don’t bite, you can sit right up front here! I hope that if you took this course before you’re happy to be back!
Before I begin, I just want to say that I have read posts about WHAT people SHOULD and SHOULDN’T write on THEIR own personal blogs and almost all came off as pompous and arrogant. In NO WAY do I want to seem pompous or arrogant. These tips are merely things that have worked for ME.
Let’s begin! *clap, clap!* I think for easiest information digestion, I’ll just put these tips in list form. These are the things that I’ve done in relation to my writing that I think have helped.
1. Shorter paragraphs, with breaks between paragraphs, are easier to read.
I cannot digest posts without paragraph breaks. Large blocks of text make me constipated.
2. If you’re seeking comments, talk about things that people relate to, include your readers in the conversation, ask them questions.
I like to think of Playgroups are No Place for Children as a sort of community blog. It’s not often that I write a post that is “deep,” but rather I write things that lots of parents would like to discuss also. Many of my posts ask questions or spur conversations, which I feel like creates an atmosphere where people feel comfortable commenting.
3. Let readers into your life. Be real, write from the heart with honesty.
Highlight the good in your life, but don’t forget to be real and occasionally admit that your life isn’t perfect.
4. Along the same line as letting people getting to know the real YOU, include pictures with your posts.
This certainly doesn’t apply to you if you would rather not post photos of yourself or your kids. Dooce wrote a great post that convinced me that posting pictures of my children is no worse than taking them in public to the grocery store where they’re exposed to LOTS more people than see this blog. I used to put a watermark on every photo of my children so that they are less desirable loot for picture stealing jerks, but I quit. Instead, after a post is no longer on my first page, I delete the photo from the post.
If you’re uncomfortable using photos of your children, you can always become a creative photographer, capturing the back of their heads or just their feet. You can also use non-human images that somehow relate to your post. Flickr is a great place to search for images, just be sure to check the Creative Commons information to see if it available for use.
5. If you choose to use pseudonyms for your kids’ names, use a real name versus a cutesy name. It’s easier to relate to and follow their stories.
I have received quite a lot of positive feedback about changing my kids’ pseudonyms from Peanut and Shel to Carson and Ella. It’s very difficult to keep straight the “characters” on your blog if their names sound like something you’d name a poodle.
The reason I use pseudonyms isn’t because I don’t want you to know my kids’ names. I just don’t want my kids names to be Google-able. When they’re in 5th grade and their friends Google their names, I don’t want them to land on my blog where I talked about them playing with tampons or smearing poop on the wall.
6. Post frequently enough. Do not post too often. More than once a day is too often.
I’ve read some opinions that say you should ONLY post when what you’ve written is truly worthy of being read by others. Meh. I don’t necessarily agree. I’m well aware that all (most) of my posts are not award-winning works of art. It’s my blog and if there are some days that I don’t feel like honing my writing craft, but instead want to write a silly post, then I will.
I also think that since so many people use feed readers or Twitter to click through to blog posts then you’re free to post as infrequently as you want. People will see when you’ve posted or when you’ve sent out a tweet about your new post, no need to worry about being forgotten if you haven’t posted in a week.
7. Write about a variety of subjects, but also know your readers.
I try to write about my kids one day, myself and my interests on other days, marriage occasionally, and anything else that strikes me as funny. I really do put thought into WHAT I’m going to post about, so that I don’t have twenty posts in a row about recipes or arguments with my husband.
The topics you typically write about will determine the type of reader you’ll attract. If you don’t normally use profanity or write about trigger subjects like politics, parenting practices, and religion, but then you suddenly write a tirade on Obama, co-sleeping, and Scientology, filled with f-bomb sentence enhancers, you’ll need to be prepared for backlash. I’m not saying that you can’t or shouldn’t write something outside of your typical genre, only that you need to understand that your readers could be shocked when they get something they weren’t expecting.
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If you have any writing related tips to share with the class, please leave them in the comments section. Oh look! I found this great post with 12 writing tips from Write to Done.
Please…I beg of you! Please refrain from comments that sound like “Well MY biggest pet peeve about certain blogs is….” or “I’m too important to read about what you had for lunch!” Those kind of comments will piss me off.
Quick reminder…Blogging? It’s a hobby, no? We are allowed to write however and whatever we want on our PERSONAL blogs, right? Take these tips with an entire MINE of salt.
Is that the bell I hear? Class dismissed.










Great post! I loved your series the first time around, I’m glad you’re bringing it back.
I thought about giving them real names for pseudonyms..but couldn’t remember what I’d chosen from one day to the next, so I just stuck with Boy Spawn and Girl Spawn.
.-= Mad Woman´s last blog ..Love me, love me, say that you love..my links. Linky Love!! =-.
Yay! It’s back! Can’t wait to read more…you know I loved the last series.
.-= LZ @ My Messy Paradise´s last blog ..Readers’ Favorites: Crock Pot recipes =-.
Jennifer –
When you did these way back when (has it really been that long), I loved them so much! I’ve often sent my friends over who have asked me for bloggy/writing help. I’m all – oh no, just go read what Jennifer wrote, it’s great.
This is going to be fun…
.-= DesignHER Momma´s last blog ..Blogger Belly – 36 weeks =-.
Glad you’re doing this again -all your tips are def things I would write myself!
We’ve been blogging for the exact same amount of time, huh?!
.-= Trenches of Mommyhood´s last blog ..HodgePodge =-.
Great post! I remember your blogging tips. Having these tips handy will also helpful with burnout too and/or writer’s block. Poor Angry Toddler, I will need to rename him soon, he won’t always been a toddler.
.-= Julie @ Angry Julie Monday´s last blog ..The Boots =-.
I also loved the series then and learned so much!
I’ve really debated in my head about the cutesie name thing. I’ve had them since the begining of time. I’m sure that my 3 readers pretty much have it down pat but I have considered just using the cutsie nicknames initials or do you think that would be just as confusing? Sometimes I’m lazy and do it that way anyway.
.-= Jean M.´s last blog ..Just Cause Chocolate Cake Is Really Good, Doesn’t Mean Eating The Whole Cake Makes It Better =-.
I agree with all of your tips. One of my own personal rules is to try to balance the small posts with the larger, more wordy ones. Both kinds are good but too many of one or the other will turn off readers. My meater, more wordy posts usually come on Monday and Tuesday when I’ve had time to write more. Then for Wednesday and Thursday when I’m busier I end up doing Wordless Wednesday and something else short and sweet-if I don’t have time to write then I’m guessing most people don’t have the time to read longer posts anyway. Fri-Sun is a crap shoot: sometimes I post, sometimes I don’t!
ps- I’ve missed these too. You always brought up great tips and things to think about!
.-= Headless Mom´s last blog ..Update #2 =-.
this is funny to me, because i recently (like last week) came across your blog and have been relishing your blog tips. i am a green, green newbie around here and have appreciated your tips. awesome that you are re-vamping them.
So glad to see these back!! I really enjoyed them the first time around – the redux will be even better I’m sure!
.-= Sarah´s last blog ..Talking to dolphins… =-.
I’m very excited to read these posts. I was tempted to go back and read your previous posts but I will be patient and wait for the updated re-postings.
I started blogging in 1997. I had to take a break when my first son came and ended up finding the blogosphere so different when I left it was hard to get back into the swing of things. Now cut back to part time and getting settled with two boys I want to try and get back into it again.
I agree with the mentioning of smaller paragraphs. Sometimes I get to blogs where I scroll and it’s just one big block of words going on and on. Click, next blog, too overwhelming! I would also suggest mentioning that people tend to really like posts with bullet points. It makes easier to see what the post context is when they first just skim the post.
Sorry for the long comment! LOL
.-= Pepper´s last blog ..Are we THAT Family? =-.
I’ve been out of the blogging loop for a bit and was catching up here and you’ve written so many things that just made me go,
“Yes!” But I’m so late, I can’t even comment on them anymore.
I just want to give you a great big hug. And I’m not really a hugger. But you make me feel like I might want to hug you. So, that’s something.
.-= Leslie´s last blog ..You’d Think I’d Be Peaches, But Actually, I’m Herb =-.
I’m glad you are doing this again. The whole reason I put spaces in between my paragraphs is because of you. And it is so much easier to read (for me too!) now.
.-= Kat´s last blog ..Blessed =-.
It’s a very useful tips. I am a new Blogger. I am always looking for same kinda information. It will helps me lot. Thanks for sharing information with me.
Hi! Guess I never read what you said about using pseudonyms for our kids. I wanted to ask your opinion… I use all Peanuts Characters for my kids names. They are Peppermint Patty, Charlie Brown, Linus, and Sally. Do you think that’s okay or just annoying? Lots of people have said it’s cute. What do you think?
.-= Texan Mama´s last blog ..Before & After =-.
Happy to see this. Glad I don’t read about Peanut and Shel here!
.-= patois´s last blog ..No Kukla Here =-.
Jean, I wouldn’t use initials, even for blogs that I’ve read for 3 1/2 years that use initials, I get confused!
So if it’s between cutesy nickname and initials, I vote cutesy nickname.
And really, if the names have worked this long, there really isn’t a reason to change them!
simply feather, I hope that revamping them will help! I’d hate for these to be a waste of someone’s time!
Pepper, People do love bullet points, especially if it’s an informative post. Those type of posts do well on StumbleUpon…which is something I’ll talk about in the weeks to come.
Leslie, I like hugs! Feel free to send one my way.
Texan Mama, I don’t think it’s annoying…but it could be confusing to a new reader. Simply Patty and Charlie might be easier for new readers. I also noticed that you don’t have a “cast of characters” in your sidebar that lists who’s who’s on your blog. Those really help new readers figure out who they’re reading about. I will talk about this in the upcoming weeks!
Yay for the redux! I started my blog this summer and was referred to your tips…so I’ll be more of a listener in class. I probably don’t have much to contribute for tips just yet. One thing I’d like more info on (and I’m not exactly sure if you covered this in your previous series): How does one decide who will be introduced to their blog, as in…friends, family, public, or all of the above? I want to be able to complain about my mother but yet I also want her to read some of the things I post about myself and my kids. You gotta start somewhere with an audience, right? It’s hard to define your “purpose” in the beginning I guess. And by reading some popular bloggers, I often wonder how in the WORLD some of their family isn’t aware of their blog…what with their photo being posted as well as pics of their children and sometimes using true names? Some bloggers are downright crude and honest about their family dysfunction, sex lives, etc. I would find these topics to be therapeutic to blog about, but yet I’d be aghast if my mother ever read those things!
.-= Kim´s last blog ..autumn’s blessings =-.
Kim, That’s a great question, I don’t think I’ve talked about that in any of my previous blog tips posts.
My opinion is this (based on having said unkind things about my mom and my husband on this blog early on): You can’t have it both ways. I know that some widely read bloggers say horrible things about their families, but I don’t see how they get away with it. I think that if you want a vent space, that’s fine, but it needs to be in the form of an anonymous blog. If you want a blog that can be read by your family AND the rest of us, you really can’t use it as a place to vent about family members.
With that said, I do still occasionally complain about my husband, but I try not be too demeaning. I have also talked about embarrassing subjects like sex, peeing my pants, having my period…I’ve decided, for me, I’m okay with my mom, mother in law, sister in law, aunts, to read that stuff. It’s part of who I am.
I love this. I do use fake names, but ones that are real.
I think the only thing I’d say on pictures is it’s a personal choice. Tons of us don’t do it. Doesn’t make my stories any less interesting, or my kids any less real. It’s really okay either way.
I heard a talk at BH this summer where the person said a blog doesn’t seem as real without pictures. I disagree. I told her that after and we talked about it for a bit. For me, it’s the fear of my family not finding my blog. So, it’s just the way it is for me.
.-= Issa´s last blog ..Honest revisited: Liz’s version =-.
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So when you switched from nicknames to “real” names how did you facilitate the switch? A post explaining the switch, by changing the nicknames to the “real” names in all of your previous posts? I ask because I am planning to transition from using a nickname and I am just not sure how I want to handle it.
.-= Catherine @ Evolving Mommy´s last blog ..Whole Wheat Pizza Crust – Monday Yumday =-.
Catherine, That is a great question! When I switched my kids’ names, I simply mentioned it in a post and updated my family’s bios in my sidebar to reflect the change.
A few people were confused, especially since it’s rare that anyone reads every single day and never misses a post! Eventually it all worked out, not really even a bump in the blogging road.
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I found this post as I was googling around, trying to find reasons to quit or not quit using fake names for my kids.
I started doing it for the exact reason you mentioned, so they won’t be googleable, but I’m not really feeling that concern so much anymore, and my pseudonyms are so close to their real names that I’m confusing MYSELF.
Seriously, how bad is it when you tell a story in real life and you use your kid’s internet pseudo-name?
.-= Simply Mother´s last blog ..When Frugality Becomes Stupidity =-.