I completely forgot that October 31 was the ten year anniversary of when Tate and I became engaged. Apparently he forgot, too.
I remembered on November 6, the eleventh anniversary of our first date. (Jesse James’ Hideout in Rolla, MO. Jealous much?) (I also puked the next morning right in front of him.) (Again. Jealous much?)
I can’t believe that neither of us even REMEMBERED that October 31 was the TEN YEAR anniversary of when we became engaged. How could we have both completely forgotten!?! Since I feel like he and I are having some blips on our marital radar, and I tend to overanalyze A LOT, it made me particularly sad and introspective to have forgotten.
I’ve been thinking about all of our special dates. We don’t celebrate any of these days except for our wedding anniversary anymore, but I remember those early days when we at least acknowledged (wink, wink) all those significant days.
December 29, 1998, This one is none of yo business
December 30, 1998, The first time we told each other we loved one another
May 17, 1999, The day we moved in together in Knoxville, the day after I graduated from graduate school.
July 14, 2001, Our wedding day
I miss those days when we celebrated that we’d been together a WHOLE MONTH! or a three months or eight months. When we got married, we decided that it would be too much to try and remember all the milestones. Celebrating our wedding anniversary would be plenty, we’d agreed.
Maybe we should reinstate celebrating those milestones. Maybe we should do what we did before.
Do you still celebrate those little days? Or do you only celebrate your anniversary?
my DAUGHTER just celebrated 6 months with her boyfriend.
SIX MONTHS of them sitting every damn day on my couch next to me saying ‘Are you blogging this?’
Happy Anniversaries!
we never really celebrated such things. We know we met the day after his birthday. But, it’s in February. So, that’s those two days, plus V day, plus MY birthday. A bit much.
As for our wedding date, we got married at the city hall the day before thanksgiving, we might have got married the next week, but our license was about to expire the day after thanksgiving when they’d be closed. We couldn’t afford a big deal wedding, nor could our families afford to travel to join us. We’d been trying to scramble up some sort of event, but in the end, couldn’t get anything settled. So, we just went and got married.
We could celebrate the day we began dating (I had an existing boyfriend to formally dump before we could be official.) or the day of none of your business. or the day he came back from his student visa required return home that summer. or when we proposed to each other. or when we moved in together that fall. or the wednesday before thanksgiving, not worrying about the date.
But, we don’t. We celebrate each day being still together. His parent’s marriage and my first marriage were both so sorry, that we’ve always just considered each day a success.
It’s been 18 years soon.
I hope you guys get back on track.
We’ve NEVER celebrated any of those days … in fact, we barely celebrate our wedding anniversary. We got married on the fourth of July and we always seem to be doing the kid/firework thing on our anniversary. Usually about a week later, we’ll go out to dinner or something. I’m guessing we are NOT very romantic? On the other hand … we’ve been married forever (22 years) so we must be doing something right.
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My husband’s head would explode if I tried to make him keep track of anything other than birthdays and our wedding anniversary. Not that he even knows those things. I quiz him every so often and he always gets it wrong. I remember, because I remember everything like that, but I don’t expect him to and we don’t do anything to celebrate.
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My husband still has trouble remembering our anniversary…though he’s pretty sure it’s sometime in August? He’s more of a big gesture out of the blue guy, and I pick up the details for all of the ‘special’ days throughout the year. (Birthdays, Christmas, etc.) You have to do what works for you though.
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We try to celebrate the first date that I didn’t know was a date but the last few years he’s been at a conference. I did arrange for him to have some of his favorite scotch that night, thanks to his helpful colleagues who are on Twitter. I admit to occasionally forgetting the date but it’s easy to look up…the day Mulberry v1.4 was released. That’s what I thought we were celebrating.
He proposed on Valentine’s day so that one is easy (and probably by design!).
The wedding anniversary is celebrated to varying degrees. It tends to depend on how interesting the traditional/modern gifts are, or if we need something major for the house.
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I know how you feel. THis is the first year we’ve both forgotten the anniversary of our first date (12 years too!!) and it made me sad AND I didn’t even realize it till about a month later.
We never really celebrated it, but we remembered and talked about it and it was nice. We hardly even celebrate our anniversary anymore… we just don’t have the time or babysitters! lol
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We dont really celebrate but we do still acknowledge those special days. Some are just for us and others we just want to remember so we can one day tell out kids. I hope it gets better!
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We never really celebrated the little dates, but at least I used to remember them. Now with kids and all that comes with being married a while, you forget. I don’t think we need to feel sad about it. As long as the big stuff is still good, that’s all that matters. With little kids you just have to celebrate different “little” things- like they both took a nap at the same time or went to bed early so you can spend some time together.
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My Hubs and I just celebrated our 10 year dating anniversary on October 8th. We have always celebrated that day, just as we have celebrated our wedding anniversary. That’s about it though. Two anniversary dates are enough for me to keep track of!
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We celebrate our dating anniversary and our wedding anniversary. We’ve been dating for 10 bloody years. Crazy. I wouldn’t even begin to know most of the others. I have a vague idea of the month in which we became engaged but that’s about it. I find it entertaining that your “first I Love You” is the day after your first “none of your business” hahaha
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We met on Feb. 6th, 1999. We’ve always celebrated it, instead of Valentine’s Day, which is way more special… and easier to get a table too!
Do we celebrate all the little dates, no not really. We celebrate our anniversary (most years) and we acknowledge the anniversary of our First Date-I think we do this because it is a few years before our wedding anniversary. And at first I didn’t want people to think that the only reason that we were married was because of Giggles. Now its because it is such a huge chunk of our lives (not that our wedding years aren’t)
Acknowledging (wink wink) those days is always a great thing to do for any marriage. Given that no one has a headache or anything.
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We used to celebrate all our dates… then we had kids, ha!
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Am I the only one that noticed that you were still with Tate the next morning after your first date? cough*whore*cough
Kidding. You don’t even want to know what my husband and I did on our first date.
And we just spent the last ten minutes trying to figure out when we got engaged. Neither one of us has any idea. We suck.
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We used to celebrate the anniversary of our dating (10/23/99), but that’s fallen by the wayside. This year on 10/23, I had a vague feeling like, “There’s something special about today, what is it?” Then, I remembered.
I refuse to throw out the arena cup from the Notre Dame basketball game that we watched together before we got engaged on campus . . . even though it has the 2001-02 schedule printed on it!
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Today is our 6th wedding anniversary. We still sort of celebrate our beginning dating/engagement month, which is January, but it’s more with reflection than gifts. In some ways the time of year we became exclusive is more significant to me than our wedding anniversary…I mean, next Jan it’ll be 10 years that we’ve been only with eachother. I think that’s a big deal. But if you ask me the actual day, uh, heh? No. Don’t remember.
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We celebrated our 8th anniversary this year by eating sandwiches and watching TV because we couldn’t get a babysitter. And I couldn’t even remember any other dates, other than when we got engaged and that’s only because it was 4th of July. Rather than celebrating all those dates I think it’s important to be present for what’s happening now. Or maybe that’s just an excuse since I can’t remember any or ours!
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we used to celebrate the anniversary of engagement, but, like you, it got to be too much. Now, just the anniversary of our wedding.
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We celebrate our wedding anniversary but doesn’t it make you a little sad. We used to celebrate all those in between dates and it was so cute.
Karly, I noticed too
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We celebrate our first date (date) and our wedding date.
Celebrate every day..Have you ever sent him flowers, just because? Send him flowers today!!!!!Have them inscribe the card..”Just Because I Love You”—-Trust me!!! THIS is a win-win!!!Good luck!
Karly, there is a perfectly good explanation! Our first date was to a destination fraternity party. We didn’t even kiss. Until the next night.
Your friend,
The SECOND date whore (though all we did was kiss. for reals.)
Corinne, OH YES! The kids really changed things. In every way imaginable.
mep, I have every ticket stub, every matchbook, everything from all of our dates! I can’t throw any of it away!
We don’t even remember the dates. I know we first met sometime in Feb of 1990. Our first date was some day in Sept of 1990. We moved in together in May of ’91. Specifics, no idea. I DO know our anniversary is Dec 24…18 years this Christmas! Only thing we even acknowledge. And with it being Christmas Eve, rarely celebrated. AND with money being an issue this year, I doubt we’ll do a thing about it.
I celebrate the date of my divorce. Possibly because we didn’t celebrate all that other stuff enough?
Just sayin’
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We don’t really celebrate them but we acknowledge them. Sadly my hubby is better at remembering them (or has an alert on his calendar – whatever – I choose to think he remembers) than I am. We talk about our first date on that anniversary…and some of our other firsts…reminisce…but we don’t do anything beyond that.
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We used to celebrate the date that I realized that I loved him, because he knew WAY before I did. But when I mentioned it to him this year, he kind of blew me off. Made me so sad, especially since that was 18 years ago. We barely acknowledged our 11th wedding anniversary since we were celebrating my brother’s wedding that same day. How depressing.
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interesting, as our 15th anniversary of our 1st date just passed, and i just blogged about it. (oct 30th)
i got The Mr. a card & a request to buy a wii since we used to spend a lot of time playing super nintendo (and regular nintendo) in my dorm room.
he did nothing to commemorate it. which was fine, EXCEPT he said “oh yeah. i forgot. well, i kinda remembered….” to which i replied “and you decided not to acknowledge it” and he said “correct”.
whatever.
i got the wii.
happy anniversary to you guys! those dates are still very nice to remember.
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We don’t even celebrate our anniversary anymore. We just sorta go ‘hey happy anniversary’ as we pass in the kitchen in the morning getting our coffee.
Pathetic? hell yes.
But I like to tell myself it is just ‘comfortable’
ugh.
Umm, yeah…so this post just reminded me that Oct 23 was the 10 year anniversary of when my husband and I got engaged. So clearly we don’t celebrate that anniversary. July 2000 we got married and we do try to remember that one.
June 1995 was the day we officially became a couple (after being good friends for 2.5 years). We don’t celebrate it at all, though I do remember it because it is my mom’s birthday.
Well, I guess as long as you both remember your wedding aniversery, things will work out lol That is the last milestone after all.
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