Comments on: Pretend babies for old ladies

By: Cynthia

Cynthia — Mon, 19 Apr 2010 09:31:38 +0000

I don't think that the age has a influence on the probability of having kids, in 2008 in Romania a 72 years old woman gave birth to a child. .-= Cynthia´s last blog ..All About Home Insurance Leads =-.

By: Momma K

Momma K — Thu, 01 Apr 2010 11:53:47 +0000

This is something I struggle with everyday, so I had to come back and re-read this post & the comments. I wrote a post about it not too long ago too!
http://www.outnumberedmomma.com/2010/03/baby-maybe-.html
But really, I wonder if we are just hard-wired to have this maternal instinct and want/love babies!
One of my friends says that women are done when our husbands say we’re done.
I’m still undecided…to be continued I guess!
Great post. Thanks.
.-= Momma K´s last blog ..Perfectly easy because I have a nanny? I wish. =-.

By: Heidi

Heidi — Wed, 24 Mar 2010 21:06:01 +0000

So fascinating reading everyone’s posts! I only had 1 brother, no close cousins-and growing up I dreamed of having a big family. I always loved babies and kids-couldn’t wait to have my own. My husband is also from a small family-and would have been happy with one. I gradually swayed (wore him down, cough-cough)and we had 2, then a third surprise. I still didn’t feel done-but we gave it a year to just think about. I’m not a religious person-but this was something I truly prayed about. I either wanted to be fine with sticking with 3, or I wanted my husband’s mind to change. I just wanted peace and closure, kwim? Our youngest was 4, I was 41-so we had to make a decision. We decided to try-and I got pregnant the first month out! #4 (and our 3rd boy) was born a few weeks before I turned 42. I truly hated being pregnant the last time around, and really felt like I knew we were done. (Not that my husband had ANY doubts-he went and had a vasectomy.) I adore having 4-it’s crazy, and hectic and fun. I will admit that sometimes when I hear about friends with 2 being able to easily travel, I do feel a little twinge-but I wouldn’t change a thing. And I have accepted that I’m just one of those people who loves babies-maybe if I was younger, and married to someone who would keep on going too-I would have had more.

By: Sarah

Sarah — Mon, 22 Mar 2010 13:39:48 +0000

I could have almost written your post!
We always said we wanted a huge family. Then we had two (incidentally similar in age to your two, boy then girl) and dh is saying he’s concerned about overpopulation and doesn’t think he wants to birth any more. I wasn’t ready quite yet for more but now that it’s sounding like it’s unlikely to be an option…
But I don’t know! I do and I don’t!
So sorry- no advice, just commiseration!

By: Denise

Denise — Sun, 21 Mar 2010 01:44:29 +0000

I'm not sure how you make the decision, but I loved reading your comments. I have 2 girls and always thought I'd have 3 kids, but my husband fears having 3 daughters! I have 3 older brothers and I feel content that my girls have a sister, I always wanted a sister. I also had a big scare at 36 weeks with my 2nd that was a defining moment for me. Being advanced maternal age myself, I've decided two is great for us. Three is definitely trendier! Who knows maybe you'll decide on a third and be blessed with twins! .-= Denise´s last blog ..Walking In A Fog, But I'll Always Remember A Face... =-.

By: Wendy

Wendy — Sat, 20 Mar 2010 00:21:52 +0000

Yeah. This is pretty much me. All the time. I have one son who I had through IVF so it wasn't an easy road. Then he has Sensory Integration and man, things weren't simple. Now that he is 6 and I am almost 39 (and divorced...party in a box, over here), I still long for another child but nothing and I do mean NOTHING speaks to the rationale for that...except that little voice in your head and heart that hurts. I so get this. I so live this. Hugs. .-= Wendy´s last blog ..Ripple =-.

By: Vicki

Vicki — Fri, 19 Mar 2010 15:29:35 +0000

Ok. Here I go. Smack me when you want me to shut up.

I have 3 kids. My original plan was for 2 babies. Then I had twins my first time up at bat. Yeah. Changed things drastically. I remember telling my mom when I was growing up that 3 were too many because they don’t fit well in a car (I was the oldest of 3). My boys will be three in April. I have a little girl, also. She will be 1 in a week. Their birthdays are 8 days from being exactly 2 years. I’ll be honest and say it hasn’t been easy but I wouldn’t trade it for anything.
My mom told me that when I had my last baby, I would know. She told me I would know as soon as I saw that sweet face that I was done. I didn’t get my tubes tied after my girl even though the nurse actually tried to pressure me into doing it. I’m not sure I’m done. The problem is that when my little girl was 5 months old, I split with my husband. I’m kicking it single mommy with 3 kids 3 and under. Crazy? Maybe but I still wouldn’t trade it for nothing. And you know what? If I meet Mr. Right later, I may still go for it again. BTW, I just turned 29 in January so I’m approaching that age where they give you the stink eye for mentioning pregnancy, too.
Good luck deciding what you want to do, but I will say you better know for sure before you decide either way because no more is just as permanent as one more.
.-= Vicki´s last blog ..My first birth story (or how I ended up with twins) Part 1… =-.

By: baby carriers

baby carriers — Fri, 19 Mar 2010 13:27:01 +0000

I think you will just know when you are truly finished expanding, I think I will.

By: attorneys flagstaff

attorneys flagstaff — Fri, 19 Mar 2010 10:29:51 +0000

the more children the biggest worry….! i prefer 2 to three not more then that.. i wanna make my parents, myself and my wife happy, thats it no big worries on growing three am confident

By: Mother Chaos

Mother Chaos — Fri, 19 Mar 2010 03:48:02 +0000

Intellectually, financially, physically? Done. Very done. WAY done. We wanted four. We have four. Four is the number of the counting, and the number of the counting shall be four. Four is awesome, and perfect, and also The End.

Emotionally…I still sometimes wonder if maybe five wouldn’t have been so bad.

And then I do one of those, “GAH! Are you CRAZY?! What is WRONG with you?!?!” shrieks, catalog all the stuff I haven’t gotten done today because I can’t keep up with what I’ve already got, and put that whole crazy five-might-rock idea to bed.

…for a while, anyway…