Twice a year, my husband leaves his family to venture into the great outdoors to hunt for wild game. As he loads the truck with all his gear, I tell him how much I’ll miss him and implore him to drive safely. With Ella in my arms and Carson wrapped around my legs, we stand by the door, waving as he drives away. I wipe away the children’s tears and reassure them that Daddy will come home soon. Then we shut the door and I do a happy dance.
I love my husband, but I really love when he goes on his hunting and gathering missions. There was a time that I resented his trips, leaving me ALL ALONE with two small babies! I’d stew the whole week he was gone in anger and bitterness, and when he finally returned I’d practically knock him over as I grabbed my purse and keys as I rushed out the door to my getaway vehicle.
Now that the kids are older and decidedly EASIER, it’s really not so bad for Tate to be gone for a week.
While he was gone, we ate Bagel Bites and Mac n’ Cheese for dinner. (The Mac n’ Cheese was at least ORGANIC processed food.) The dryer became my closet because I never bothered to put any laundry away. Toys were strewn about the house. We watched movies and ate popcorn almost every night. After the kids went to bed I indulged in complete unadulterated laptop devotion.
Tate doesn’t expect that dinner should be served piping hot as soon as he walks in the door from work. He doesn’t care if beds are made, if the house is tidy, or if the laundry is neatly folded and put away. That’s just how we typically live. It’s what I DO on a day to day basis. Tate’s vacations are also my vacations.
By the final day, though, the wrinkled clothes, mess, and diet of processed foods have worn me thin. Tate typically calls throughout the day as he drives the ten hours home, and I find myself actually excited about his return. Also? Slightly panicked.
“Carson! Help! We have to get this house cleaned up before your daddy returns! It looks like a fraternity party gone bad in here!” I yelp as I look around at all of the granola bar packages and empty soda cans.
“Mommy, what’s a fraternity party?”
“Never mind! Just help me clean!”
All the toys somehow find their way back into the toyroom and their respective bins. I turn on the dryer and pray for the wrinkles to be released, then quickly fold the laundry and put it in drawers. The evidence of poor food choices are hidden at the bottom of the trash bin. My legs are de-furred (*wink, wink*).
We stand at the door and wave as Daddy pulls into the driveway. The children practically knock him over as they rush out the door to greet him. Then we come inside and we all do a happy dance for his safe return.











The secret to my marital success? He travels.
A LOT.
And I love it.
Shhhh. Don’t tell……..
I couldn’t agree more. My husband doesn’t travel much for work, but when he does, I try to enjoy it. Relax about cleaning and meals and just live a little more ‘chill’ for a few days. I stay up and read or surf or whatever I want without feeling like I’m ignoring him…
But…um…best. face. ever on your little one!
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My husband travels for work almost every week (this week gone 7 days). Although it does have downsides (job outside the home plus kids, extra chores, no back up) I absolutely love being in charge and being on my own schedule all the time. It’s almost like being single again except for the crazy kids.
I also love my secret single meals. TJ’s brown rice with soy sauce and corn from a can.
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I love it when my husband travels, too. In fact he’s headed out tomorrow afternoon for a long weekend… yippee!
Oops. Did I say yippee?
i love love love my husband, but wouldn’t mind him going away once in a while. occasionally i pack the kids in the minivan and steal away to my parents house for several days. same idea except i have to drive 6 hours with the kids and no help :-/
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I’m relieved that I am not the only one who likes it when my husband goes away
It’s not all fun and games, that’s for sure, but I do like running things on my schedule without worrying about his. And I sure like going to bed an hour earlier with my book!
Oh I adore that photo.
I think it’s good for a change of pace sometimes, for everyone.
LOL at organic processed food. I say that too.
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Oh, I know that “school’s out” feeling of husband being out of town! Cereal for dinner!
I even like it when my husband is on overtime. Same thing: the kids and I have sandwiches for supper and eat on the couch. :]
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I can totally relate to this post – but I’m the Jennifer from a few years ago. The biter housewife that gets all b*tchy as her husband flies first class to Europe for the week.
I need to find my happy dance. (apparently by Tuesday)
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Okay, wait. My husband is just going to Missouri, not flying first class to Europe. Feel free to stew in your bitterness! I sure would.
I can certainly relate. May 21st we finally buy a house and get to live like a family again. For the last 7 months I’ve lived 4 hours away from the wife and kids only going to see them on the weekends. It’s nice to get away, i love my freedom. and now that the kids are a bit older, she has an easier time with them during the week. But it gets old fast.
great pic! our girls knock me over when I get home friday night too.
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*sigh*
really.. related to all of that because Nathan has been traveling out of town for weeks at a time.. a lot! lately.
and seriously, the last picture and the imagery of happy dances along with it.. love.
also.. the fraternity party image, yes.
Complete unadulterated laptop devotion … Mmmmmmmmmmm. I could use some of that!
Love that your son asked what a frat party was. Earlier this week my daughter asked if she could dance on the kitchen table, and I was tempted to say, “Not until you join a sorority, dear.” =>
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I love this post and sort of know how you feel. My husband doesnt do the hunting thing but when he does go out of town or is gone for some reason its my time to do nothing but what I want. To watch, eat, read.. anything girlie that I do not get to indulge in while my guys are home.
Here is something that might make you smile. I had no interst in ever watching Mama Mia. The guys were gone and it was my time… I broke down and watched it and fell in love. Yeah I know it wasn’t the best movie but I loved the music. We had the chance to go see the play and it was increadable. Now everytime Mama Mia is on TV I catch my husband watching it. It cracks me up to see my sports crazy husband watching Mama Mia. Ok so maybe that’s only funny to me. hehe
Glad to hear you had a great time and that your honey is back home safe and sound. The picture is priceless!!! You will def. have to use that when she gets married or for graduation.
You give me great hope for my husband’s future business trips. I am currently in between the Happy Dance and the Bitter Dance.
His trip to Scandinavia when the Chalupa was 4 weeks? Total Bitter Dance. Now that the kid is at the ripe ‘ole age of 1-1/2, it’s the Happy Dance for the first three days and then being a single mom gets old.
But I think we’re moving in the right direction. In the next year or two – if I’m reading your post correctly – confetti will fall from the ceiling, chocolate will bloom in the garden and my child will sleep until 7am whenever his father travels.
Right? RIGHT?
This is soooo me! I had the bitterness a few years ago when my husband was working out of town 4 days a week before we moved far far away from everyone we know (ie: free babysitter). What was I bitter about then? I had my mom living 2 blocks away! And now, he works out of town 2 to 3 nights a month. Those are grilled cheese sandwich havin’, don’t have to run around 5 minutes before he gets home so he doesn’t realize what a slob I am, non-bed makin’, party nights!! Except for the night he comes back. Then the rush is on. Shhhh…. don’t tell though. He doesn’t have a clue.
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GREAT blog!!! One of my friends recommend reading yours and I love it. This one is my fave.
My husband travels a lot for work and I love it… At the moment I only have a 2 year old so it’s fairly easy.. but I love the alone mommy/son time!
And what a beautiful picture!!!
LOL because I can so relate. My hubby travels on average 2 weeks a month. Usually sun or mon through friday.
Kids though have started having big mouths and tattle taling on me about what a mess the house is when he is gone and how I don’t feed them, do laundry….. I’ve put them to work becuas eof that lol.
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